r/actuallesbians - lesbian but fantasize about pegging men?

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[–]GreykittymommaMagical lady 💜 40 insightful - 24 fun40 insightful - 23 fun41 insightful - 24 fun -  (1 child)

Repressed gay dude thinks he is a woman and is confused he still wants to fuck dudes up the butt? Listens to dudes getting ass fucked? Such a womanly activity. I know I blast gay porn sounds to relax and rub my huge 6 inch clit to.

[–]winterwillow 16 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think this is trans lesbian though? It doesn't seem like it from the post history, seems more like a young female to me, and being confused sexually from watching porn isn't that unusual. But it's telling how some replies are more concerned with her 'not equating penises with men' and 'lesbian is just a loose idea.'

[–]reluctant_commenter 44 insightful - 4 fun44 insightful - 3 fun45 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

I've noticed this isn't that weird for lesbians actually. It absolutely seems to be a power thing, and it makes sense....

By no means am I attracted to men, but if I had the opportunity to peg one, I would absolutely do it just for the experience :)

NO. NO.

Why would you ever think someone who isn't into men would say this??

They think this isn't weird for lesbians because they only "lesbians" they interact with are on r/actualAGPlesbianLARPers...

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 30 insightful - 7 fun30 insightful - 6 fun31 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

I've noticed this isn't that weird for lesbians actually.

Yeah, it is not weird only for "lesbians" in /r/ActualLesbians, where majority of posters are transwomen, men and bisexual women.

[–][deleted] 28 insightful - 2 fun28 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Because their ideology has made the word lesbian useless. If lesbian can mean anything, it can apply to anyone.

[–]lazy-summer-godSuper Gay 32 insightful - 23 fun32 insightful - 22 fun33 insightful - 23 fun -  (0 children)

In my family, we're all lesbians. My mom, dad, sister and big brother, brother's wife and my boyfriend Felix is also a lesbian. We're just a simple family.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 39 insightful - 3 fun39 insightful - 2 fun40 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

i think it might have something to do with how i feel weak and fragile around men and want to take back control and have sexual power over them

Well that doesn't sound at all...rapey.

[–]FrenchiePup 9 insightful - 9 fun9 insightful - 8 fun10 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

No she's just a bi-curious lesbian with domme tendencies.

[–]RippoffOfLoveSStraight | Overuses quotation marks 30 insightful - 5 fun30 insightful - 4 fun31 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Can you tell these are the same people that think that enjoying lesbian porn makes you a lesbian?

[–]Beryl 15 insightful - 12 fun15 insightful - 11 fun16 insightful - 12 fun -  (1 child)

Fucking men in the ass is the ultimate expression of Sapphic identity.

[–]BigMommyMilkersYes, they're real 12 insightful - 11 fun12 insightful - 10 fun13 insightful - 11 fun -  (0 children)

Are you even a real lesbian if you don't want to fuck men in the ass?

[–]anxietyaccount8 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (6 children)

(I know this OP is male and trans so I'm not specifically talking about them), but as a straight woman lurker I am perpetually confused by how many young queer people actually do seem to be interested in F/M sexuality as long as it's not "traditional" somehow. There are many self-described lesbians who are like "well I just have a comphet crush on a feminine/celebrity man" or "I like straight couples when the dynamic between them is equal". This is incredibly strange to me. I hope that doesn't offend anybody but it's just my thoughts.

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 21 insightful - 4 fun21 insightful - 3 fun22 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

It's not offensive at all. A lot of them are straight-up heterosexuals in denial. Seriously, many are not even bi! A chick I knew from fb came out as a "lesbian" in a narcissistic, postmodern, tumblr-esque post, describing how she doesn't have to like women sexually to be "attracted to them" and count as a wlw, and how her nonbinary husband means their relationship isn't "straight", b/c it's outside gender norms. She said the word "lesbian" needs to be "reclaimed from exclusionists" and "terfs", and how "the word lesbian feels right". All of this, without her even being sexually attracted to women! It was 4 paragraphs with a rainbow selfie, and was exactly as cringe as it sounds. So many people liked it though, FFS.

[–]anxietyaccount8 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Wow...that woman is just...

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Welcome to the Club of the Perpetually Confused, lurker! Although we are clearly not the confused ones, as you have just observed.

[–]blackrainbow 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I thought about that too (I'm a lesbian). I think some people could be bisexual but don't like the typical straight couple's mechanisms (disparity, gender roles, etc...). I think there are also many straight girls who are actually bi or even lesbians but they believe they like men because comphet, discrimination, religion...

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It seems like it may be a defense mechanism. They see how many straight relationships in their immediate life are (parents and other close friends of parents) and don't want to get caught up in something potentially abusive or otherwise just unfulfilling. The most immediate way to ensure that doesn't happen is homosexuality: how can the man abuse the woman or vice versa if there is no (wo)man in the relationship?

Over time, they may realize that not all relationships are like that, but get caught up in the identity they've built for themselves or have lingering fear from whatever turned them off from straight relationships to begin with, thus being OK with it as long as it isn't stereotypically bad.

And of course, there are also those who try to jump on board to try and spite someone or some group, such as the political lesbians (who are straight or bi) but call themselves lesbians to try and spite men or a specific man.

[–]MyLongestJourney 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

lesbian but fantasize about pegging men?

Oh I do not know. Does ramming a cactus up various wanabee rapist,TRA asses counts as pegging?

[–]automoderatorHuman-Exclusionary Radical Overlord[M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

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