DiscussionWithin gay male culture, how is femininity treated and contextualized?

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[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

In my experience there's a very wide split between the hyper sexual communities that form, and the more sexually conservative communities.

In the more sexual communities, femininity in the form of twinks and effeminate """"innocent"""" boys are regarded almost like trophy boyfriends to more masculine/older men. Similar to the tropes regarding Blonde trophy wives in heterosexuality. You know the ones. This is the kind of community where you're more likely to find support for drag and performative femininity, too.

Historically though, I've been part of more sexually conservative circles. These tend to skew a little older, often include men past "gay death" age, and in my experience have been less enthralled with the glitz and glamour of the drag scene. I, and those I tend to surround myself with, don't find excessive femininity attractive in men.

So I guess the takeaway is that it really matters who you ask.

[–]artetolife 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

There are plenty of hyper sexual communities that are devoid of feminine twinks. The only places I see those are the super mainstream bars and clubs, the kind that have pop music, drag and straight people.

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'll take your word for it, because as I said I don't make myself a part of those circles beyond the obligatory being dragged to clubs by friends.