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[–]Shadow_Lurker 11 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

This is either a troll or a really tone deaf person lol

It's not like she has no notion of how actual real gay men act and is merely emulating porn/yaoi (oxymoron, I know). Not at all....

That's a real and honest gay men right there!

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Actually I think her words are very much like how gay men, unfortunately, view sex.

"I have a vag so I'm an ultimate bottom" sounds very similar to the guys I've met who genuinely believe that being a "bottom" makes you "less than a man" and you may as well be female/not have a penis if you're not topping guys. Sexism like that is very common among gay men, and it's part of why I don't date, because I don't want a partner who sees me as a "failed male" or a "replacement female" because of my looks or my refusal to "top" other males.

[–]Shadow_Lurker 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Unfortunately you are right on this, and it really piss me off.

There are guys that completely lose their interest once they find their partners might prefer bottoming, specially if they are masculine men.

It's so dumb. Just because someone likes to bottom it doesn't mean that they are less masculine or something.

[–]roguecanine 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

If they lose interest because their partners bottom, so they want their partners to top, so be the one who bottom? How could they think bottoming is bad then if they want it too?

[–]Shadow_Lurker 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If they lose interest because their partners bottom, so they want their partners to top, so be the one who bottom? How could they think bottoming is bad then if they want it too?

Well, they see topping or bottoming not as simple sex roles (which they are) but as indicatives of ones nature, with the top generally being very agressive and masculine and the bottom submissive and feminine.

It's not that bottoming is bad, but that bottoming goes against the image of the idealized men they worship: very masculine and dominant.