Why don't more lesbian, gay, and bisexual people realize the harms of gender ideology to public perception understanding, and discourse on same-sex attraction and rights? What is preventing them from making those realizations? I don't believe it's that we are all being silenced, though many of us are. A lot of LGB people cheer on gender ideology and partake in it themselves. So many lesbians are now proud to announce that they're not women while championing women's rights. It doesn't make any sense and it's just adopting the idea that lesbians aren't really women and gay men aren't really men.
What are the obstacles to lesbian, gay, and bisexual people waking up en masse? Presumably they have to be seeing a lot of the stuff we are, but they're just not questioning it or they just try to ignore it? Surely, they must have noticed that spaces/groups that used to be for lesbian, gay, and bisexual people are now overrun by heterosexual people donning rainbow merch and hair colors?
I'm sure it's a complex web of issues including that the organizations that helped many of us get rights are championing this gender stuff and feeding these narratives about trans heterosexual people being responsible for our rights. But like don't they notice the abrupt change in leadership and messaging? Don't these lesbians notice all of the men in their dating apps? Aren't many of these gay, lesbian, and bisexual people hearing the arguments about strap-ons and penises being interchangeable, and if so, why is that not setting off alarm bells? Have you ever heard any lesbian, gay, or bisexual person use the phrase "genital preference" or comment on the phrase?
A "non-binary" extremely feminine lesbian I know (who still uses she/her pronouns) is all about "gender is a social construct that is separate from sex." So it seems like she hasn't gotten the memo on TQ trying to replace sex with "gender identity" under the law and in interpersonal social interactions. What is the best way to pass along that message?
ETA: I also note that lesbian YouTubers to varying degrees will occasionally say something like, "Sorry guys, of course some lesbians have penises." I've heard two say the word "TERF." And then there's also the not particularly masculine lesbian YouTuber who transitioned to become a trans man Youtuber Miles McKenna and you can see many of her pre-transition videos.
But none of the lesbian Youtubers that I know of have transbians in their social circle. Nor have any of them dated a trans MtF person. They also talk frequently about the realities of being lesbians, the kind of stuff that would get them banned for transphobia and "punching down" in r/AL or any other nominally "lesbian" space. None of this would be that surprising because they're, you know, actually gay, but I'm surprised that I don't see them getting called out for it more seriously. Other than I imagine it would be bad really bad PR for the trans community to try to get Rose and Rosie, for example, cancelled. But I think it's somewhat telling that most lesbian Youtubers at best pay a little bit of lip service but otherwise aren't going full-blown TRA.
As another example, the "Dating Straight" podcast, which is hosted by a gay man and lesbian, never had a trans person on it until a few weeks ago when it featured Gia Gunn who was apparently the first trans person on RuPaul's Drag Race. Of course the title of the episode is "Transphobia in The Gay Community with Gia Gunn." I'm not particularly interested in watching/listening as a form of entertainment, but might watch later for purposes related to the discussion in this post, but it at least appears clear that this is an HSTS trans-identified male, so still not a transbian. And again this person is not part of their social circle. The only transbian I've ever seen appear on any lesbian Youtuber's channel is Melody Maia Money, who appeared on Arielle Scarcella's channel. And notably, this person was very quick to cancel Arielle recently as featured in this video.
So my point is that I think lesbian Youtube is both emblematic of the cognitive dissonance happening, but should I take it as a sign that they have some idea of what's going on but are trying to maintain their brand as many of us are?
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