This is where I am mentally. And I believe that tolerance not compelled and awkward celebration is the path to normalizing homosexuality and bisexuality. Same sex attraction will always be seen as a little weird because it's the opposite of the norm and has a lot of implications on our lives and the ways we interact with others. We're members of our own sex that have some insight into experiences that are common for other members of the opposite sex to have. We're women/men who know what it's like to be with a woman/man sexually and romantically, so this will always make a little bit "other" but I don't think it's beyond the realm of possibility that this becomes a variation that is not the norm, but not threatening or destabilizing. I am wary of anyone who pushes the idea that "everyone is a little bit gay." I think we only get true tolerance and ultimate acceptance when we accept that we are not the norm, but that that's OK.

And don't get me started on the idea that "same-sex attraction" is about being open-minded. This is a common narrative these days and a lot of people who push it think they're being helpful and allies, but it's harmful because sexual orientation should not be seen as having anything to do with morality or virtue. As we've seen, we just get it from the other end - being called bigoted for not being attracted to the opposite sex.