LesbianAm I still lesbian if I also like trans/andro/non binary people as well?

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[–][deleted] 26 insightful - 4 fun26 insightful - 3 fun27 insightful - 4 fun -  (12 children)

I once bumped into a woman on reddit who was attracted to effeminate men, trans-women (only because they're effeminate men), and NB / androgynous men. She said she was 18 but sounded younger. Wtf is going on here? Is this some weird version of autoandrophilia? E.g. they attracted to the idea of being male, so they have some sort of pseudo-bisexuality? Or maybe, they're intimidated by men and find relationships with women safer and more familiar, and this is the safest way for them to be attracted to men.

From another post by the op:

I like girls. I’m not sexually attracted to them but just find girls very attractive and just overall better. I have watched lesbian porn and found it nice but not extremely arousing. Anyways, I think I’m 90% attracted to girls and idk about the last percent. There are some boys I’ve found cute and have thought about dating but at the end of the day I’d rather be their friend.

But to conclude, its just weird how I don’t get that same butterfly feeling for girls as I do boys. I know i like them but I just cant wrap my head around it.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 30 insightful - 17 fun30 insightful - 16 fun31 insightful - 17 fun -  (1 child)

Weird how I don't get that same butterfly feeling for a member of the same sex, like I do for members of the opposite sex. How strange for a lesbian like myself!

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 11 insightful - 10 fun11 insightful - 9 fun12 insightful - 10 fun -  (0 children)

The inner monologue of any remaining menstruators on r/actuallesbians.

[–]denverkrisMy pronouns are Vodka?/Yes!/please[S] 26 insightful - 10 fun26 insightful - 9 fun27 insightful - 10 fun -  (1 child)

I think maybe she should just get off the internet and go, idk, live life or something.

[–][deleted] 28 insightful - 8 fun28 insightful - 7 fun29 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

99% of r/lgbt needs to get off the internet and get a life

[–]sgtduffy 28 insightful - 2 fun28 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

jesus. lots of my straight girl friends can also appreciate the beauty of other girls, but that don't make them lesbians. OP is straight as hell.

[–][deleted] 20 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

oh 100%. I think she's young and just needs to do some growing up. It peeves me though that there are adults on there telling her she's a lesbian, or that there's these really bad ideas going around that gay is some fluid kind of label, and that lesbians can like men etc.

[–]reluctant_commenter 15 insightful - 9 fun15 insightful - 8 fun16 insightful - 9 fun -  (4 children)

But to conclude, its just weird how I don’t get that same butterfly feeling for girls as I do boys. I know i like them but I just cant wrap my head around it.

Haha, for me it's the opposite-- so I must be a straight woman then!

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Same HAHAHA 🤣🤣🤣

[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Hey, I haven't seen you in a while! Hello 😁 hope things are going well!

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Hey what's up! :P Yeah, college has started and I've been much busier than before so I don't come here as often. Hope you're doing great as well :D

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Totally fair, I get on here probably too often even though my work has gotten busy 😆 thanks!! :)

[–]zephyranthes 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I once bumped into a woman on reddit who was attracted to effeminate men, trans-women (only because they're effeminate men), and NB / androgynous men. (...) Or maybe, they're intimidated by men and find relationships with women safer and more familiar, and this is the safest way for them to be attracted to men.

Mostly this. Scared of "chads", sexism, revenge porn, the "bros before hos" attitude, so into men who (she thinks) won't betray her (haha fat chance, men who perceive themselves to be failures as men are the worst perverts). This is everywhere on teenage twitter. I mean, South Korea's export is 20% semiconductors and 80% softbois.