RantAnyone notice how trans people constantly have to use an abundance of filters or photoshop on dating sites/personal profiles?

submitted by Smolders1Cock is god's greatest gift. from self.LGBDropTheT

Is it 'cause without all of those filters they'd be instantly clocked as male (if they're a transwoman) or female (if they're a transman).

Seriously, they constantly blather on about how much they are real men or women but don't even have the balls (haha funny) to give people an accurate, completely unedited look at themselves on sites in which you're basically required to know one's full physical appearance.

It doesn't matter if "you don't owe me your medical history" or whatever. I, as a gay man, should not need to clarify that I am not attracted to biological females on apps made for gay fucking men. Straight females shouldn't even be on there in the fucking first place.

I'm sick and tired of not using the term 'rape' just 'cause I believe that it may be a bit heavy depending on the context. Just because people often lie to get laid doesn't make their knowledge of their own deception any less rapey.

Sorry to say, trans folk, if you know that the person you've been having intercourse with would not have engaged in said intercourse if you clarified you were trans, you have raped them by deception. And you're an asshole to boot.

Can't believe TRA's have the bollocks to say shit like: "trans people aren't looking to deceive anyone!" when comments on Reddit that are in support of trans people purposely not giving out their sex to potential partners receive thousands of upvotes, similar support can be found on pretty much any site.

Rant over.

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[–]bastetkat 49 insightful - 19 fun49 insightful - 18 fun50 insightful - 19 fun -  (0 children)

On datings apps: highly edited close-up selfies

On social media apps: anime.

[–]julesburm1891 41 insightful - 12 fun41 insightful - 11 fun42 insightful - 12 fun -  (3 children)

TRAs: there’s no difference between me and a biological (wo)man

Also TRAs: let me furiously edit photos of myself to look more like the opposite sex.

TRAs: no one is trying to rape anyone by not disclosing their sex!

Also TRAs: well, obviously I attempt to hide my sex until the clothes come off because they wouldn’t consent otherwise.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 30 insightful - 9 fun30 insightful - 8 fun31 insightful - 9 fun -  (2 children)

Also add that they think it's not rape if the consent is given first before the clothes come off. No takesies backsies uwu!

[–]RippoffOfLoveSStraight | Overuses quotation marks 17 insightful - 20 fun17 insightful - 19 fun18 insightful - 20 fun -  (1 child)

Consent is kinda transphobic tbh 😩

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 18 insightful - 19 fun18 insightful - 18 fun19 insightful - 19 fun -  (0 children)

Sexual autonomy is a product of whiteness and colonialism and capitalism and the alt-right 😔😔😔😔😔😔

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 27 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I once got banned from a discord server because one of the MTF mods had a really creepy, over-filtered monochrome selfie as a profile pic. This was a couple years back where I was in a very bad mental state and it was enough to make me uncomfortable seeing it pop up all the time, seriously it was like something out of a horror movie and honestly I thought that was the intent/that this user was being edgy.

So I asked politely that it was changed and explained that it was kind of uncanny. MTF mod proceeds to have an e-tantrum complete with crytyping acting like I'm being deliberately offensive, whines about me being "transphobic", and bans me.

It's funny because I posted a pic of myself in that same server before and everyone bitched about how I looked "fake" "like a doll" and accused me of editing in a really rude way.

The good news is that most people who edit/overfilter their selfies are not very good at it, you can usually tell when someone's airbrushed their skin to the uncanny valley or it's the snapchat big eye filter.

The bad news is that some filters are getting better and better at replicating, such as some of those ones who do "gender swap" filters. They're not perfect but you could definitely be fooled at a glance or if you're not looking closely. I think I remember a video of a guy with a convincing "girl filter" on, then it zooms out and reveals he's a dude.

Trans or not you should never hide your appearance. You need to find someone who appreciates you for how you really are and if you avoid that you're asking for trouble.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 17 insightful - 10 fun17 insightful - 9 fun18 insightful - 10 fun -  (2 children)

Lizard, I know you hate gay guys but I love you anyway.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 4 insightful - 7 fun4 insightful - 6 fun5 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

???

What? And in addition, what?

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Well, of course you do-- you're a fellow reptile, after all :)

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Their feelings matters - your (and, well, ours) - don't.

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 21 insightful - 10 fun21 insightful - 9 fun22 insightful - 10 fun -  (4 children)

Passing trans people are like unicorns.

They don't exist, and the closest we can get is playing dress up with a horse.

[–]JulienMayfair 16 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

I have failed to notice a trans man before. With trans women though, there's almost always something that gives it away.

I remember meeting a trans woman friend of a friend in a nightclub. After a few minutes, I whispered to my friend, "So, Margot used to be a man, right?" He answered, "Yes, but don't mention that you noticed." Margot was just a bit too tall, and the shoulders were too wide, plus the facial bone structure. I got to know Margot better, and she eventually told us that she regretted transitioning, especially the genital surgery, but she felt resigned to having to live with it.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I have failed to notice a trans man before. With trans women though, there's almost always something that gives it away.

I think that the same thing is responsible for both, oddly enough. Namely testosterone. The changes in appearance that it creates are dramatic-- whether naturally via male puberty (for trans women), or artificially via "gender-affirming" medical intervention (for trans men).

[–]fuck_reddit 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Estrogen and Testosterone are both such interesting, powerful, and psychologically influential hormones, I will never understand why someone would want to nuke their body with both.

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I got to know Margot better, and she eventually told us that she regretted transitioning, especially the genital surgery, but she felt resigned to having to live with it.

That's really sad. I wouldn't wish that on anyone, even the TRA loons.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 16 insightful - 5 fun16 insightful - 4 fun17 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

Sorry to say, trans folk, if you know that the person you've been having intercourse with would not have engaged in said intercourse if you clarified you were trans, you have raped them by deception.

I don't think that happens very often. I'm a gay man and even I can tell the difference between a neovagina and a real vagina. Don't even get me started on phalloplasty.

[–]Locke 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I once got curious and looked up before and after pictures of sex change surgery. I'm sure there are a lot of botched ones and I was looking at surgery websites that obviously don't want to show bad jobs. Gore doesn't really bother me, though the right after surgery images could definitely be disturbing if that's something that gets to you. In the images after the surgery healed, the neovaginas somehow looked more convincing to me than the neopenises. I guess that's probably because it's somewhat covered, though. It's not like they're zooming in and spreading open for the photo. Maybe that's why the neopenises were much more off-putting for me. I think too, though, that it's because of how overly large all the neopenises looked along with the skin being so unnaturally smooth. If the "vaginas" were that prominent, the uncanniness would probably be harder to ignore. I thought the "penises" looked so incredibly unnatural, and all so similar. Natural genitals are kinda weird looking, but there's a beauty in that they're all unique. It's very sad that people feel the need to try and literally cookie cutter themselves into what they feel pressured to be. Into an exaggerated caricature of what they think a man or woman is supposed to be. And there's all this talk of supposedly abolishing gender roles as they're actually becoming stricter. It's like we're stepping back in time to the suffocating social norms of the past and pretending we aren't.

[–]FrostyNugsI'm allergic to nuts 13 insightful - 7 fun13 insightful - 6 fun14 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

Yep. Tinder trans always use 50 filters and still never pass. You'd think they'd use the time they spend doctoring their photos to shave their facial hair instead, might be a bit more helpful to pass as women.

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yup. Said the exact same thing regarding rape on a thread similar to this not too long ago. Not only are these types of trans people rape advocates, they're huge fans of catfishing. Lying is the only way they can ever hope to get laid, and since they tie their self worth to being fuckable, they spend most of their time lying.

[–]NeedMoreCoffee~=[,,_,,]=^_^= 8 insightful - 10 fun8 insightful - 9 fun9 insightful - 10 fun -  (0 children)

Sometimes i feel like I should just install some dating app so i can finally see all the crazy profiles people keep talking about lmao

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

What kills me is that I second guess people who interest me on dating apps. If I spot a nice looking woman (not super filtered) but she's got a slightly stronger jaw, I worry she might be trans, so I swipe left, but it could have just been a woman with a strong jaw. I don't want to waste my time or divulge any information to this person or meet up with them if it turns out they are a transbian, but it's sometimes hard to tell over pictures alone.