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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 46 insightful - 1 fun46 insightful - 0 fun47 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Really offensive. The fear some lesbians have of being seen as a predator by other women is not because we believe deep down we’re not lesbians, morons. It’s because unlike you, we are of the female sex and as a result of that, we regularly experience male creepiness and have sexual aggression and perversion foisted upon us without our consent by people like you from long before we became adults. That can result in us have a difficult time openly sexualizing other women because we don’t want women to feel that same discomfort that is forced on us since we were children.

[–]BigMommyMilkersYes, they're real 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Have you guys ever actually felt like a predator? Where/how? I'm interested because I have never experienced this feeling. I've had straight women (as I'm sure we all have) think we're going to chase them but it has never made me felt like a predator because I wasn't one.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I don’t feel like a predator but I do have a fear of making women uncomfortable in the same way men have made me feel uncomfortable. And while I don’t feel like a wolf in sheep’s clothing, I do fear others seeing me as such because as I’ve learned, straight people will not reach the conclusion on their own that I’m gay. So that means when they do find out, it’s like they see me in an entirely new light, they’re really caught off-guard about it, and I’m sure they replay their social interactions with me in their heads.

[–]les4leshomonormative 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I do have a fear of making women uncomfortable in the same way men have made me feel uncomfortable.

This is it exactly. I don't fear being predatory because I know I'm not a predator. But I do fear people seeing me as one because thats what they expect of lesbians.

[–]blackrainbow[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Luckily only a few people still think like this (at least where I live)