"societal influences on your genital preference"

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[–]julesburm1891 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Yes, actually.

Although, I’m just now reflecting on how I’ve never seen a transwoman who was just a clueless teenage boy. Somehow they always are older men who know they’re manipulative.

[–]just_lesbian_things 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

transwoman who was just a clueless teenage boy

Some of them are. There's lily whatever in UK politics, for a high profile example. I've definitely met (female attracted) male trans people in their 20s. I think the ratio is skewed by the lack of manipulative older women preying on young gay men.

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I have a friend like that (20s, male but trans non-binary, in a relationship with a female). There are other older males in his community who are quite manipulative. I think there is a healthy dose of young, naive, gullible, low self-esteem, and AGP/ fetishization that is driving the behaviour.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Most transwomen I've met are like 16-20 years old, few of age 25-27, almost all of them are fetishists, few of them have very strong cases of autism and just believing everything they hear, I even saved one of them, other was too close to his "transwomen and transmen school circle" (he said whole or almost whole their class became trans, in Canada).

I know transsexuals at age of 35-40+, but they are all gender critical and homosexual males.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah...My boss is in his 50s about and he's a transbian who believes in witchcraft and has a wife AND a girlfriend because he's polyarmous. Also, his wife has autism...and they had a "oops" child recently...even though they're "lesbians". He also likes to play up that "catty woman girl stereotype where he's sweet but a jerk and talks about his days in the military quite often...it's...hmm

Anyhow! ...I've seen mostly older male trans with only one younger one when I was college around the time I "peaked".

I don't see any female trans very often. Only seen 1 in real life, that was a former corworker and I could tell she was a woman even though she was "butch", but everyone called her a he/man. She went by, let's say "Sal" but her real name was "Sally". No sure if the other workers are blind or if that's what she referred to herself as(a man).

Most of the female trans I see are online...in very specific places but I don't encounter them that much anymore(because they're young and mostly on tumblr LOL)---but I encounter male trans almost everywhere I go and it's annoying. Especially in female-specific places I see them and I just stop bothering with those places after.

Sometimes, I just want FEMALE ONLY places because they understand where I am coming from.

I wouldn't just invade a MALE ONLY space just because it's not "inclusive" enough. That place is made for THEM. Also, trans people actually have a lot of their own groups too, so I don't know why they need to go to our groups and such?

It's just a little frustrating sometimes...

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've met a couple IRL, actually. Both were manipulative people. One was a gay guy who then came out as nonbinary, and who FIRMLY believes in comparing people's trauma and oppression-- oh, and he is the most oppressed. (Maybe he doesn't count though because he transitioned to nonbinary not a woman.)

The other guy was also manipulative, but ultimately, I think, very self-unaware; a friend and I speculated that he might have untreated BPD. Alternated between being a ray of sunshine and really hurtful to people. I think he really struggled with his identity and fitting in in many other ways... I have some hope for him, and I hope he ends up with good, evidence-based therapy.

edit: met both of these people as teenagers, it's been a couple years since.