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[–]blackrainbow 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The fact that one of them said that she thought she was a lesbian makes me think some of them are straight girls looking for a relationship between two equals and not the typical abusive straight relationship with a guy. It is known that a lot of ftms change sexuality after the transition and they mostly become bisexuals.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wonder if it’s because straight women are the least genital-enthused of the different sexual orientations. I know this is a hot take but my impression is the average woman is really not into penis. Like penis is, at best, a means to an end. I have never heard any of my straight female friends talk especially fondly about penis (including long before they knew I was a lesbian). Like there’s very occasional mention of size or shape if the penis is at an extreme but I never hear awe, appreciation, or enthusiasm. Not hard to imagine why because societal standards have made heterosexual sex deeply unsatisfying for most women. And the vast majority of women cannot orgasm from PIV alone. Also it’s common that male and female bodies fit together in ways that make it really difficult for the PIV sex to stimulate the most pleasure parts of a vulva or vagina, let alone any pleasurable part.

So I would be surprised if a penis is not really all that essential for some heterosexual women to be attracted to a partner. And since T is kind of intense, I wonder if two especially well-passing heterosexual female trans guys can legitimately be attracted to one another, and not in that dead inside way that TRAs use to pressure relationships (“You don’t have to look at/touch/think about my genitals.”)