I honestly feel like we just need to go back to before the extreme transgender activism -- maybe to before about 10 or 15 years ago? There was a time when LGB acceptance was pretty high (all things considered), marriage equality was becoming the norm in more and more countries, suburbanites happily watched Ellen and Will&Grace, and one could be a "metrosexual" guy or a "tomboy" girl without thinking they were literally no longer a member of their birth sex. There have always been a small number of people, used to be called transsexual, almost exclusively HSTS(mostly gay but some lesbians too). They would present as the opposite sex because it made them feel more comfortable, but they would know there were limits -- eg they wouldn't change in a public shower room, or try to play on a woman only sport team etc etc because the whole point was NOT wanting to call attention to oneself. There were honestly zero problems and I have friends like this to this day that I have zero problems with.

The problem overwhelmingly comes from straight AGP men, usually white, who have disproportionate economic and social power to shift the narrative, but honestly have basically nothing in common with the LGBT community. They're middle aged men who get their kicks from wearing their wives' panties. If anything they're the most heterosexual and strict on gender roles, because they tend to be hyper masculine men with very misogynistic traditionalist views (that's why pretending to be a woman is so erotic for them -- how could there be anything more humiliating than being a lowly woman?). They overtake all the LGBT organizations and focus on their wants. They also deliberately provoke women (esp. lesbians). To a lesser extent there are the straight women LARPing as men from their yaoi porn, but being women nobody really listens to them. IMO the problem is at least 98% with the AGPs because their agenda is fundamentally a conservative straight male one.