LifestyleHow it is like with intersex attraction?

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[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Can’t speak for other gay men, but I don’t know. I’ve never met an intersex man before.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

My answer is the same, except I'm a lesbian - I've never met an intersex woman.

[–]HelloMomo 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You never really know with the internet, but... https://interinfo.tumblr.com/ is a blog by a lesbian with CAH, who's dating a woman with Swyer Syndrome. She talks about how attraction interacts with intersex conditions, and basically the important the is their phenotype rather than their genotype. Here she talks about phenotypes and here are a couple ones about pheromones. I cannot 100% vouch for the accuracy of any of this, but I found it interesting, and some of you might too.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, this is pretty much what I was thinking: it's the phenotype that really matters-- the person's observable sex characteristics (regardless of whether they're actually male or female).

The term "intersex" covers quite a range of conditions (EXCEPT hermaphroditism, which is non-existent among humans); usually it's clear whether people are male or female, even if they have some degree of mixed-sex characteristics. Appearing to be the opposite sex, or ambiguous enough that observers aren't sure, is not the rule.

So, I'd expect that lesbians could be attracted to female-appearing intersex people (like those with Swyer Syndrome or CAIS), and gay men could be attracted to male-appearing intersex people (like those with De la Chappelle Syndrome). For cases where there are obvious mixed-sex characteristics, it would probably come down first to genitals, and then (if those are the kind you're attracted to) whether the rest "matches" closely enough. If observed sex is actually ambiguous... not sure how this could work for those who are exclusively same-sex (or opposite-sex, for that matter) attracted. Theories, anyone?

(Oh, and: thanks for the link! Lucid, non-pervy intersex sites are always welcome.)

[–]artetolife 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've only met one man with Kleinefelter's and I'm not even sure that counts? He didn't have anything visibly different unless you were looking for it.

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I haven't met anyone who's intersex, to my knowledge, but I think so. There's a wide range of what is "intersex" anyway.

[–]RedditHatesLesbiansHomosexual Not Queer 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I mean, why not? Intersex people are still male or female. They're not some otherworldly third sex. So homosexual women would be attracted to intersex females, and homosexual men would be attracted to intersex males. In 99% of cases it's very clear what sex an intersex person is even if they do look androgynous.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So homosexual women would be attracted to intersex females, and homosexual men would be attracted to intersex males.

Well, with the caveat that "female" and "male" here would refer to observable external sex characteristics, not necessarily true biological sex; I can't picture any homosexual man being attracted to someone with Swyer Syndrome (intersex male), for example, since such people are seemingly female.