LifestyleEarly 20s LGBs, how is your social life?

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[–]fuckupaddamsBisexual Terve 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

All my friends are genderspecials or genderspecials sympathizers. I was interrogated by my close friend the other week because she was concerned because sometimes I have a "conservative view of gender" aka I think women and homosexuality are a real phenomenon. I come here for relief.

I said that I don't agree with every notion of gender theory (since like new and contradictory ones come out every week) and she (they, sorry) said that's not ok for me as a cis person. Essentially that because I'm cis I'm not allowed to think critically and come to my own conclusions, I need to just accept it all without thought. This was in response to me saying that there are even trans people who are critical of some of the rhetoric. Ok for them, not for me bc cis.

Op where do you live?

[–]luckystar 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

There's a simple solution to that little problem. Explain you're not cis. Because in all likelihood, you're not -- Do you 100% of the time identify with all the social roles, behaviors, appearance, etc of your birth sex? If not, congrats, you're not cis! I think the actual % of the population that is "cis" is actually tiny, it's just that most of us don't sit around with our thumbs up our asses thinking about how special our ~relationship with gender~ is. Agender or non binary more accurately fits the average person who isn't literally a Barbie Doll or G.I. Joe.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Big agree with it. I was always confused by cis definition because I never wanted to become the opposite sex but I'm not attached to the one I was born as either. Intuitively I always thought that only trans people experience something like gender identity and it's a disorder to feel it... not something actually normative. People don't think of themselves through gender lenses. Most of us are agender.