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[–]divingrightintowork 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I shared your post with a friend, I'm hoping they may have some insight, we'll see! That said a lot of people think life feels super hard at 21! I was way happier at 31 than at 21! Life was a lot easier, things made sense, maybe dating and relationships isn't a right now thing... Maybe focus on other interests and activities, be it Contra dancing or blues dancing (those spaces tend to be really accepting), arts, hobbies, dance groups, etc. and make deeper interest based relationships through those things - maybe some will turn into something else. Also maybe look for other souls that are a bit more like yourself, and see how that works? I knew a twiny duo that ended up dating and being a super cute couple, in my city.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm actually 29, not 21 lol But yeah I generally do just that. I focus on my art and it helps but there are days where I start to think about all this kinda stuff and it does bring me down a bit, especially when I have to go to work and continue to deal with some customers who treat me "less than" (and I know it's because of how I look because they don't act that way towards my other guy coworkers who do look masculine/"normal").

Also maybe look for other souls that are a bit more like yourself, and see how that works?

See I've tried but where I live, it's like overrun with these trans-identified men and women, I can't find other feminine guys like myself who aren't involved in the gender nonsense. I've only come across one Lesbian who doesn't buy into the trans stuff but she eventually moved away...

[–]MiaXiang 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

29 is hard too! It tends to get better after that.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I really hope so lol Like I mentioned in my opening post, I genuinely like myself, it's just the circumstances that I'm struggling with lol