Ah okay, I see. And no, the only one who knows is the "pansexual" coworker. Everyone else told me they thought I was gay...until they found out I was pregnant and laughed...like...what??? Every job I get, people ask me if I have a boyfriend and when I used to say no(before I was with current partner) they'd ask me if I had a girlfriend instead like...what? Why are you asking me these personal questions?

I currently am looking for new job. I do not like how politics are in job. I need to finish degree and go back to school...I'm strongly into tech and creative stuff.

Then I also have many problems with snooty MtF boss, he say condescending things to me. For example, one of my micromanaging boss(let's call him the "professor", he's above me but below MtF boss) specifically told me to ask him to make these tech tickets for job because he didn't want me to make a bunch of random tickets for not knowing how to troubleshoot specific issues. I was new at the time, so I thought, okay sure.

The professor was not around, and so I ask MtF boss who's above both of us if I should make ticket, I exhaust all troubleshooting options I could think of at the time(I know a LOT more know than back then, I mentor people and created two training/resource guides for two different departments.)

MtF boss say "What are you, a child? Why do you need permission?"

....I...I'm asking for HELP not permission. Oh well. He say many comments like this to me and I can't do anything about it because everyone excuses his behaviour.

And he never listens to reason. For example, the professor and one other boss, lets call, the sloth(same level as professor), tell me to do different things. This gets me in trouble with MtF boss. MtF boss says "Why did you do that when you are supposed to do XYZ?" Because I didn't know and both the professor and the sloth told me too. "That's funny, because I told them not to do that"

Then I send SCREENSHOTS of those bosses telling me to do that.

"Well, they said that 3 days ago, they know now. So don't do that."

Well what the fuck? You asked me WHY and I told you why. What else do you want from me?

Oh...to top it all off? He's a polyarmous, married transbian who believes in witch craft and had an "oops" child who's may toddler to gradeschool age. Brags about how him and his wife NEVER argue(according to him, his wife has either autism or aspergers...I sense someone may be taking advantage of the other...). Brags about how great he is and his military days, and boasts that he basically "built" this company, HAH!

Also...I found out his deadname by accident at the job site. Assuming he worked there for maybe...10 years and he might be 50y.o(because he's sooo "old" as he says), then he was maybe 40y.o when he transistioned.

That does not seem like body dysphoria to me.

I struggled for many years and...I...still think about it sometimes but bury that in the back of my head if I can because it sucks.