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[–]FrostyNugsI'm allergic to nuts 40 insightful - 1 fun40 insightful - 0 fun41 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I've seen many things that are shocking or gory, but jfc the gross, coercive, gaslighting bullshit I see coming out of the mouths of these people is what actually turns my stomach.

[–]SeahorseLTHarold, they're lesbians! 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

And the way they phrase it. Pretending to be little harmless lambs, all helpful and "educating" people. Oh dear.... The way they write is SO manipulative, it makes my stomach turn. Like, I get aversion from this. My ex was abusive and gaslighting af - and these people talk just like that. I react instinctively to them.

[–]FrostyNugsI'm allergic to nuts 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

And the way they will always paint themselves as victims! Oh, how they're soooo persecuted by literally everyone and everything! As someone who has also had a run-in with a manipulative person, that will always set off alarm bells in my head. Spend long enough with these types of people and you'll learn that the maltreatment they claim to face is just people having agency and not catering to their every whim. Never had to deal with a manipulator as a partner, though, I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

[–]SeahorseLTHarold, they're lesbians! 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thanks. You know what? I try and see one positive thing about that: Thanks to her (him? them? She was a her when I met her and got with her, later claimed different IDs, FtM etc) I know now what abuse looks like, and it was what made me distance myself from the toxic LGBT community I was part of. It's protection after all, that my gut reacts to this stuff subconsciously already.

[–]FrostyNugsI'm allergic to nuts 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is true, once you see this stuff you will be able to recognize the warning signs before the person gets to your head. You've now got that protection forever for whenever someone tries to pull that kinda bullshit on you.