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[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Oh, don't get me wrong, it's huge for me HYPOTHETICALLY too. I believe it's detrimental and destructive to have sex without loving each other. (If that makes me "sound like a conservative Christian", I don't care.) But at the same time, I have to accept I will never love another man, nor will I be loved by one.

I don't really, I've always found it hard to make friends, and family have never been around.

[–]markiemarcus 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh no judgement there at all; I don't think casual hookups are healthy either. Certainly not with total strangers. To each their own I suppose!

I wouldn't count yourself out. This stuff does need built and nurtured IMO though. My early to mid 20s were a total write off for various reasons, but it did come around again. Took some work though, not even the romantic connections, the friendship connections.

I'd start with hobbies, embrace the things that you really love, and see where that takes you. Maybe even some voluntary work; that actually really helped me be more open and connect with people again. I had a huge shock in the my late teens/early 20s and, following a 12-18 month bout of mania and grief (less charitably, a full-blown episode), I just completely shut down. It wasn't even depression; I felt absolutely nothing. Going through the motions with regards to everything.

Mid 30s now and the situation is rather different; it's been a gradual process.