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[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I was seriously expecting a 22-24 year old kid. I was even going to cut him some slack and make a comment like "Yeah, I used to dress like total cliche when I was kid too, with my flannel shirts and everything!" (hey, it was the 90's! At least it was trendy!)

I guess it's true, 30 is the new 20....

[–]reluctant_commenter 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I guess it's true, 30 is the new 20....

I hate that some people treat increasingly older adults-- 18, 20s, now 30s?-- as kids (I know that you aren't! just observing generally). I had to become fully independent at age 20 and I was amazed at how many people I knew in college believed they were literally incapable of performing "adult" tasks like setting up gas services or doing your own taxes-- let alone being emotionally independent. If people need help learning to do these things, that's totally okay! But to say that someone is still "just a kid" at age 20, 25, 30, is completely inaccurate.

It's so crazy to me that someone could, in their 30s, be so swayed by the lemon bars thing. Like, whoa. How much of a sense of self does that guy have...? I don't want to sound critical, but I just can't wrap my mind around it.

/rant lol

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I really don't know what's happening, I think especially because of this shit economy and because the cost of living is so high and because of school debt and credit card debt and other kinds of debt, many American 20-30+ year olds can't leave home and start their lives, and it really sucks for them. They are living in a twilight world where they are half-child/half-adult. But I read stories on /r/amitheasshole and there are stories about adults who can't wash their own dishes or clean their own mess, and it boggles my mind. Like grown men who are husbands who complain about their wives wanting them to help with the baby, but "AITA for wanting to play my video games instead?" Like... What??? Is it that they are so crippled by depression/trauma that they'd rather fight for 2 hours and make everyone else in the apartment miserable than to spend 10 minutes cleaning up after themselves and be an adult, I don't get it?

I don't even know what my point is, LOL I'm just so flabbergasted by how immature and unripe these latest batches of adults are. (This is not meant to insult anybody here, I'm just generalizing based on a few bad apples. Of course there are tons of mature Millenials/Gen-Z out there too!)

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I feel so infantalised because I am living at home due to losing my job due to covid. Housing is so expensive and I feel like I'm still a teenager at 24 (not literally... you know what I mean). Financially it's hard to get to where I want / expect to be by now. I would never leave the chores to my mum though and I clean up after myself. It's bad enough being at home, but I can't imagine how grown ass people my age don't do basic shit around the house. It's not even hard, you can learn how to cook and wash your clothes from google dammit. Also I've had depression in the past and I have ASD. It wasn't severe at all but pretty mild. But you know what? You see a psychologist and go to your sessions, you learn the skills to cope and you do your homework and eventually it gets better. There are some people who have it really bad and they're different, but I don't have much sympathy for people who are sick / not coping as they should and refuse to do anything about it.