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Ah, beautiful. Somebody actually described the "female gender" on the thread linked in the comments.

It is a pretty broad term. But as a sorta-flux sorta-girl, I think I might be equipped to explain some of the terms you named? (flux is a kind of fluid, where the intensity at which you feel [gender] fluctuates)

To explain demigender identities, first we have to know what a gender even is. Imma take female for example, bc it's easier for me. There's certain aspects we associate with womanhood, like cooking, wearing dresses, being caring, longer hair, being better at precise tasks, being more aware of social situations, better grooming. These "stereotypical attributes" are by no means universal, but they are kind of associative? If you knew someone knitted, had 17 cats and had an hourglass figure, it would be a subversion of expectations for this person to be male.

For the sake of this explanation and my very tired brain, let's assume the list I named is exhaustive, rather than reductive. Now, lets say, that someone might be better at precise tasks and has better grooming, but has no ear for social situations and intensely dislikes cooking. Some might say this person is gender non-conforming, but maybe that... doesn't feel like it covers it for the person. Maybe they have some aspects of social dysphoria or even physical. In any case "GNC woman" doesn't feel like it properly conveys the distance between them and "womanhood".

Now, a genderfluid person might start the day off being perfectly fine in their presentation. Pronouns she/her, pretty skirt, nice makeup, cute shoes. But halfway through the day smth changes. Pronouns grate, shoes look wrong, the skirt which looked so pretty before, now feels like they're crossdressing. And it's impossible to explain this change with anything other than "the gender I experience changed."

There you have it. It's literally clothing styles and, apparently, knitting and cats.

There's a reason why these people avoid answering the question "What is a gender?" or "What does it mean to be a woman if not based on biological sex?". Because the answer is stuff like this. They think wearing clothes is a personality, and they think in terms of rigid gender stereotypes. They're the most sexist of all but they think they're being woque. It's gross.