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[–]watermelonsappho 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Hey, I'll give you some insight on why I, as a young lesbian, dated a transwoman who I was not even remotely attracted to. LGB people ages 16-26 (give or take) are basically steeped in this shit. I have never been attracted to anyone other than women, as in adult human females. But I grew up learning that evil lesbian "TERFs" are bad, that I need to unlearn my bigoted preferences, and that everyone's sexuality is fluid categorically. On top of all this, the TW I dated was abusive and would openly make fun of me for being scared after they had violently assaulted me, including in front of my "friends" who also saw this as funny or at least pretended to. These people are fucking sick and frankly have nearly nothing in common with actual lesbians and gay people. When you grow up not feeling like you fit in with straight people, it is devastating to realize that the community that is supposed to include you really doesn't care about you or protect you either. You need to find your own way. I don't know how it is for older or younger LGB people, but that is my experience as an older gen Zer.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you. This, along with the medicalization of kids is my biggest fear. Pressuring young gay people explicitly and impliedly with the threat of loss of community into entering relationships with people they are not attracted to/the opposite sex is absolutely horrifying. I’m sorry you went through that but glad you now have the clarity of mind to realize you were gaslit and can’t trust the people pushing for this.

[–]Eurowoman24[S] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

oof thanks for sharing. I'm a young millenial (mid twenties) and can't imagine what it's like growing up in a school system fully immersed in this crap. When it comes to dating I have no problem standing firm. Literally every single time my friend talks about this shit I tell him to go try it for himself and report back, that never makes any of these uber woke people happy. Again I just wanted to say I'm sorry you went through a traumatizing experience ... this sounds like a lot of straight douchebags only now they wear dresses and makeup.