LifestyleWeird feeling about marriage equality

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[–]Poppy29252Natal Cat Woman 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

No, but maybe because I live somewhere with cultures that have had marriage even before Europe colonized the area.

[–]KingDickThe2nd 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The issue is that many different types of relationships in non-western influenced societies have been wrongly translated as marriage in western media.

For instance, a non-western society that has a cohabitation cultural institution, where a couple will just simply decide to move in together and raise a family and where there is no ceremony, will have their relationship translated as a "marriage" so westerners understand that the relationship as a long term relationship. It is for this reason that many people think marriage is a universal cultural institution.

[–]Poppy29252Natal Cat Woman 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm not saying it's universal, I haven't been out of the US to know much about other customs elsewhere, I am saying that here where I live native tribes have had what we call marriage before we slapped a capital M on it and gave the government and church the job of approving it. They have ceremonies, they have traditional practices, specifically for marriage that don't include the US government or Christianity.

Without the paperwork, it's just the English word for a permanent, committed, long-term relationship.

[–]KingDickThe2nd 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

it's just the English word for a permanent, committed, long-term relationship.

In that case, what is the difference between a cohabitation / de-facto relationship and a marriage?

Is cohabitation not legally recognised in your state?

[–]Poppy29252Natal Cat Woman 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Depends on the culture and/or the law, doesn't it? My girlfriend's sister was considered married to the father of her child in their culture but they didn't have a "legal" marriage. Who determined their relationship? The US government or their Navajo culture? Marriage exists outside of the paperwork the state provides, it's not just a "white man's invention."

My state does not recognize common law marriages.