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[–]a_blue_bird 30 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 0 fun31 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

You also identify as someone who loves women, and I imagine that you love more than their genitalia and their outward appearance. So what does this mean for your assertion that you are not attracted to trans women?

They're always using the definition of political lesbianism to define lesbians. Guys, please look at the actual definition of homosexuality. It's not about ''loving'' a certain ''gender identity''. It is sexual attraction to your own sex.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 20 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

You also identify as someone who loves women, and I imagine that you love more than their genitalia and their outward appearance. So what does this mean for your assertion that you are not attracted to trans women?

It means I'm not attracted to trans women, Kai.

"Assertation" for fuck's sake. Genitalia and outward appearances are two of the main dealbreakers about whether someone with a fantastic personality will become more than a friend. These people are so demisexualphobic, the way they think everyone should automatically be attracted to everyone else. I make fun of demisexuals A LOT, but I feel like, at least in high school, being a lesbian and calling yourself demi or asexual might be the easiest way to prevent trans from trying to crowd-source bullying you into touching their dick.

[–]HollywoodLESBIAN 18 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

They always play the "well you're not ONLY attracted to this person's genitalia, therefore genitalia shouldn't matter at all" card. Your genitalia is a literal prerequisite that determines whether or not I'm even capable of being attracted to you. And once again, what's the difference between thinking this and trying to get gay people to have sex with the opposite sex? Should gay men automatically be attracted to butch women since they're masculine presenting? Should lesbians automatically be attracted to feminine men with long hair? That's not how any of this works and they know that.

[–]soundsituationI myself was once a gay 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This logic can be taken to ever more ridiculous conclusions. Why limit your attraction to humans? I imagine you love more than bipedalism and opposable thumbs, so why reduce your dating pool to these trivial features?

That's not how any of this works and they know that.

I agree. They know it's a barrier to entry and not the sum total of attraction, but they'd rather play dumb and hope it gaslights a few victims in the process.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 8 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Why limit your attraction to humans?

That's an idea, why they would not just date rocks? Rock can't say "no".

[–]Jinera 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Right? It's also not about "identifying as". No. People don't identify as a certain sexual orientation, we are born that way. I don't identify as someone who loves woman, I am same sex attracted and so a lesbian.

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You also identify as someone who loves women, and I imagine that you love more than their genitalia and their outward appearance.

This statement is so misleading and manipulative. In the span of one sentence:

  • Implying you are a bad person if you do NOT "love" someone because of their "genitalia and outward appearance".

  • Purposefully obscuring the meaning of the word "love" in this context.

I "love" my siblings and friends for "more than their genitalia or outward appearance"-- because that kind of love doesn't require physical chemistry or compatibility. Romantic/sexual love, however, DOES. Or else it would not be romantic/sexual. I think this sentence is some carefully constructed wordplay designed to obfuscate which meaning of "love" is being used.