And most of these people have NEVER met a trans person IRL, let alone ever dated one, and they NEVER would. They just sit at home safe and smug and type this stuff on the internet because it makes them feel good about themselves.

I used to be on a sub called /r/vanderpumprules (a reality TV show) and for a few seasons there was a trans woman on it called Billie and the female castmates were having problems with him, and these virtue signally women in that sub had a field-day beating their chests about how woke they are and how supportive they are and of course TWAW and screeching about TERFs. It was actually one of the incidents that helped me to peak.

This is a sub that was mostly women and gay dudes geeking out over a shitty reality show, but the moment these women had the opportunity to be superheroes and defend a trans woman, they all got so excited. Meanwhile, in most of the incidents on the show, it was Billie who was causing the problems, not the female castmates. (In some incidents, he really was being bullied/antagonized/excluded, I agree, fair is fair.) But the people on this sub felt so UNCOMFORTABLE ever calling him out on his shitty behavior. They kept bending over backwards defending him and attacking anyone who tried to call out his bad behavior and downvoting everyone who had the wrong opinion.

It's so easy to pretend to be on the side of a trans person and go "Oh yeah, I'd totally date one!" when you've never met one IRL.