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[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 48 insightful - 1 fun48 insightful - 0 fun49 insightful - 1 fun -  (11 children)

Rebuilding gay, bi and lesbian communities.

The main reason why our movement has been hijacked by trans lunatics, Marxists, neoliberals and ideologies that have got nothing to do with our cause is because we allowed this to happen by not saying no. But another reason is because we were too scared to say no when it became more vital to say no. Gay people don’t stand up for each other anymore unless we’re standing up to a straight person who wants to take our rights away from us. We fight with each other too much. A lot of gay people act like perpetual teenagers. It’s time to change. Gay people need to realise that we need our own community to be healthy in order for wider society to respect us. So here’s what we need to do:

  • Organise and collectivise to stand up for gay people who have been a victim of trans ideology and woke ideology, not just homophobia.
  • Start going to gay bars again. Even if you’re already committed to someone. Just because you have a boyfriend or a husband doesn’t mean you can’t be friends with other gay or bi men, as long as you take your partner with you.
  • Organise other gay spaces besides bars. Such as meet-ups, support centres, info centres, cafes, dancehalls, etc.
  • Bring more romance into the community. I’ve been to restaurants in Prague and Slovenia where I saw a lot of straight couples and pairings dancing together and I thought to myself, we need something like that in our community. We should organise evenings out where we have dinner and dancing. Gay couples dancing to romantic music. No nudity, no obscenity, nothing more than kissing, hanging and holding each other. Keep it wholesome. Leave sex for the bedroom.
  • No more gatekeeping. There are a lot of gay men who think that all gay men are naturally effeminate and dismiss masculine gay men as faking their masculinity or not being gay enough. Likewise, I’ve heard of masculine gay men being dismissive of effeminate gay men as not being real men. If you’re a man who likes men, you’re a gay man, no matter how masculine or feminine you are. It’s okay to have preferences with relationships and even friendships, but there’s no need to be rude or dismissive of couple who do not fit your perception of things. Just live and let live.
  • Gay men need to stop seeing each other as objects. We also need to stop throwing each other under the bus. No more misandry. We need to be civil to each other, not just towards our boyfriends.
  • Older LGB people need to be better role models for younger LGB people, and younger LGB people need to have more respect for older LGB people. The last one especially, because the way a lot of spoilt brats treat their LGB elders is disturbing, especially considering that it was mostly the elders who faced persecution in the west. But older GB men should inspire younger GB men to be better men, and older LB women should inspire younger LB women to be better women.
  • Less consumerism. It makes you shallow.
  • Finally, we need to think beyond our LGB community. What about straight people who are our friends, family and neighbours? Not in our specific community, but they are in the same broader community as us, in terms of race, city, region, nation and religion. We should encourage each other to contribute to the general community in a positive way. Not only does this build up (and regain in our case) good will from the straights, it also helps us to feel a part of the place we live in and feel like we belong. It’s not easy, but it’s important.

[–]les4leshomonormative 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

This is so detailed and well thought out, thank you

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you.

[–]HelloMomo[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Seconding this!