LifestyleHow old were you when you found out your were LGB?

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[–]MisandryFTW 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I used to fool around with and get serious crushes on other girls as a kid. I even had a "girlfriend" and we were going to get married someday (spoiler: we did not) but I never realized it was weird because everyone just thought it was cute or funny. I didn't hear the word lesbian until I was in my teens and it meant "a woman who acted like a man and was angry and mean and dangerous". Later on I learned the definition meant "A women who pretended to like other women to get attention from men, a slut, also a porn category" and finally I realized the true meaning way too late.

That said I was 14 and already experienced with women when I realized I "might be bisexual" and it took me until my 30s to realize I was definitely a lesbian. I'm kind of dumb like that. I always thought straight/bi women and gay/bi men just pretended to be attracted to men to be polite because obviously no one is actually into it, gross. Hahaha. :/

Fun fact, all my male exes (and rapists) have since come out as trans spectrum, so I am technically a retroactive gold star.

[–]RedditHatesLesbiansHomosexual Not Queer 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Figured it out much sooner but I also thought all women pretended to like guys and weren't actually into them, I have no idea why I thought that but it proves how we all sort of assume everyone thinks like we do even when it's ridiculous since we only have access to our own perspectives. Still can't comprehend how anyone can actually be into men, or even more weirdly how they can not be into women at all. It's like not being able to "get" how someone hates the taste of your favourite food even though intellectually you know it's possible lol

[–]MisandryFTW 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I mean women are sexualized all over the media and men are not really. You might just assume it's because everyone is secretly attracted to women but not to men, instead of realizing it's because the whole world caters to straight men.