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[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Not sure what you meant by saying 'my girlfriend is autistic and thus doesn't believe gender as a fixed thing linked to sex'. I'm autistic and while at first I thought the same thing, after being bombarded with trans propaganda, I peaked and understood that it's all bullshit. Her having autism shouldn't be a reason why she believes in that bull, but I have to agree that a ton of people on the spectrum are attracted to the gender ideology because they want to fit in somewhere, and they also love to label themselves to understand themselves better. I'd suggest curating a bunch of resources that are for and against gender ideology and see if it peaks her.

[–]Dravidian[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

So far it doesn't peak her. As I've understood from her position she doesn't get what a woman is supposed to be and doesn't "vibe" (sorry, not English and very tired, so approximating here) with the concept. She doesn't care about it much, or nearly at all, but she also considering herself not technically cis because she has no idea what a gender is so she can't in good faith say she's a woman, even though she never says anything else either and isn't trying to say she's genderless or non binary or whatever. As far as I understand what she's vaguely told me years ago, at least. And of course I understand autistic people usually have each their own definition of stuff and sensitivities and aren't one whole thing with the same believes and views and perceptions or lack thereof. It doesn't help that she never has to interact with men except her own father, which she does only at arms' length, and was, and still is, very sheltered. So she doesn't feel like there's any tangible threat on women or lesbians. I gave her the google doc links about the compilations of tweets and stuff, and talked with her a lot, but she mostly shrugs and tell me to get off twitter. Frustrating. But she also doesn't care that I hold these beliefs, so... At least i'm not going to loose her, I guess.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, autistic logic is pretty odd, tbh, and I can see where she's coming from. The lack of interaction with men is definitely affecting her opinion, since most opinions are based on personal experiences, and if there is a lack of them (good or bad), it can make discussing such things very difficult. I guess the important thing is that she doesn't hold your beliefs against you, even though she dismisses your worries. Fingers crossed she peaks soon!