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[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 28 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 0 fun29 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I really wish a group of neutrally aligned scientists would study why certain men and women wish to appropriate the labels of Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual so badly. I know you mainly focused on people who are trans or date trans who appropriate these words, but there are also several IRL examples of women who call themselves lesbian but marry, are in love with, and enjoy having sex with one man, but insist he is the one exception and she is still a lesbian. (So in this situation the woman could be either bisexual or straight.)

There have been plenty of examples of IRL "political lesbians" in the past, IDK how trendy it is anymore. Sometimes I feel like in the rad-fem community there are certain straight women who really really hate men, and just to show everyone how much they hate men, they declare themselves lesbians and insert themselves into lesbian spaces, but it's like........... uncanny. Maybe actual lesbians can chime in on this, but these women feel even less "lesbian" to me than transbians do. (And to be clear, the lesbian level of a transbian is 0, but at least transbians are attracted to women.) They're just doing a performance art of being a lesbian, but I get the vibe that they do not find other women sexually attractive and would be like a deer in headlights if they came face-to-puss with an IRL vagina. They are just voluntary-celibate straight women pretending to be lesbian.

And I'm not going to derail this post into a "What about the Bi's????" wank-fest, because we've all heard of how many straight women pretend to be bi and kiss each other and just embarrass actual bisexuals. For straight people calling themselves bisexual to gain entry into the LGB T community used to be the go-to method, before calling themselves Queer/Pan became more trendy. There is no way to prove someone isn't bi, even if their last 100 partners have all been opposite sex, you're still obligated to give them the benefit of the doubt, and straight people, especially women, would take advantage of this way too much.

SO my question is, what is it about the LGB community that makes so many people lose their damned minds and try to infiltrate us? They don't even like the same sex so it makes no sense. It's like someone who doesn't like cookies trying to forcibly gain entry into the cookie lover's club by pretending to like cookies. Like.............. Why????????????

[–]Gearbeta 33 insightful - 1 fun33 insightful - 0 fun34 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Its because being considered LGBT became trendy, women being into other women is hot to males so straight girls will do it to turn on their male partners. Radfems who are pissed at straight dudes for often being awful partners pretend to be lesbians to escape what they think is inevitable shitty relationships with men. Also people know that gays and lesbians are oppressed and playing the victim is a very powerful force in today's society. Some people treat marginalized status as a "Get out of jail free" card when it comes to responsibility. We see this all the time when it comes to trans people. What I find interesting is that while being LGBT is considered trendy, actually being homosexual still isn't so most of the straight pretenders do so in a way so they won't ever have to have physical contact with the same sex. So they claim to be queer, or bi, or demisexual

[–]InLaymansterms 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I hate how there’s almost an “oppression olympics” where you get some sort of brownie points for being some sort of minority. I’m a racial minority, first generation child, and gay but I don’t let that encompass my whole identity. I’ve had it worse than others and easier than others, that’s the rule of life. What should really matter is what good are you doing for yourself and the world, not mulling over how oppressed you are and how hard you have it.

[–]emptiedriver 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

first generation child

what does this mean?