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[–]InLaymansterms 9 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 5 fun -  (4 children)

The only pan person I knew is also in a dysfunctional poly relationship and is an empath/narcissist who has to tell everyone about their pansexuality and relationship, even random customers.

[–]reluctant_commenter 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

who has to tell everyone about their pansexuality and relationship, even random customers

Well that's weird.

I don't know why but I am kind of uneasy about the word "empath". It always confuses me, like, you know, everybody (or almost everybody) has at least some varying degree of empathy and compassion, right? Making it into a binary variable of "I'm an empath or I'm not!" weirds me out.

[–]Feather 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

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[–]reluctant_commenter 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's very interesting. What you're describing sounds kind of like a covert narcissist, ironically. I have only ran into a couple people who call themselves empaths but now I am curious lol, I'll keep an eye out. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[–]InLaymansterms 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Same, then I realized empaths are basically narcissists in the way that they want to feel special. Like, everyone has a degree of empathy, it’s a human thing.