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[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 28 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 0 fun29 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

A romance with a person like this is impossible. They don't see you as a human. They just see you as a tool for their "narcissistic supply." They live in a fantasy world where they are the smartest, most important person in the world, and if you are under their control, they will force you to live in this fantasy world with them and gaslight you and torture you and punish you anytime you try to go back to reality. This fantasy world is their coping mechanism, and you and your feelings don't matter. Your life and your happiness and your mental/physical/emotional needs do not matter. You are just a tool to help keep the fantasy going. If you dare to say "But what about me?" they will call you a selfish asshole and run around complaining to the whole world about you and lie and do a smear campaign to destroy you. Because not only do they not love you or care about you, you mean so little to them, that they would actually enjoy getting the chance to destroy you. It would give them the feeling of power.

And LGB who instinctively get red flag feelings about people like this are gaslit and told they are horrible transphobes for not giving trans people a chance at love uwu. I'm not saying all trans people are narcissistic sociopaths, they aren't. But when an LGB person feels that red flag, whether it end up being true or not, the LGB person should be told to trust their gut and not date that person. But our society suckled on the teat of Rape Culture, so we can't have nice things, like autonomy over who we want to date.

[–]reluctant_commenter 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

And LGB who instinctively get red flag feelings about people like this are gaslit and told they are horrible transphobes for not giving trans people a chance at love uwu. I'm not saying all trans people are narcissistic sociopaths, they aren't.

I think it is fair to say that while not all trans people are narcissists, the transgender ideology is narcissistic. And by trans ideology I mean the "gender is innate and sex isn't real", etc. ideology, not the concept of transexuals.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't want to sound like a conspiracy theorist, but I try to imagine how all of this even happened. Like all these anonymous narcissists around the world joined forces through the internet and created this alternate reality together where men are women and women are men and you can get anyone to sleep with you by calling them a transphobe, and the whole world is just going along with it. The whole ideology IS narcissistic because it was hand-crafted by narcissists. It's just mind-boggling to me because it seems like the sort of thing where anyone with a brain would just stand up and say "Now, wait a minute here... This is all crazy!" but nobody is doing it. (WE are, but nobody is listening to us. In fact, Reddit, that enabler scum, silenced us!)

And it reminds me so much of IRL families with an NPD disordered person. Everyone just sits by silently and lets the narcissist destroy everything because everyone is too scared to do anything. And the children/adults who try to escape or fight back are villainized by everyone. It's so horrifying to experience this same dynamic on such a large scale.

[–]writerlylesbian 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What I always say on this is that the trans movement is founded on a lot of abusive tactics - breaking boundaries, bullying, gaslighting, manipulation etc. - so as a movement it is naturally going to attract abusers who feel at home enacting all of these things. I don't think its a conspiracy exactly, but it's certainly a natural and logical consequence of how the movement is set up.