DiscussionLGB and types of attraction

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[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (12 children)

This is just balkinization of different feelings that asexuals can have.

Asexuality only means that a person doesn't feel sexual attraction, but they can want another asexual partner for a what basically is a very close friendship, and this can be either same or opposite sexed as a pair. This usually was, at least back in the day, called romantic/aromantic asexual.

I don't know what platonic (sounds like a variation of romantic?) or sensual are. They're probably just tumbleratti BS.

I understand aesthetic attraction, but I don't see why it needs a genderfeelz term either.

Apart from romantic/aromantic (which can signal if you want an asexual partner or not) it's all just LoOk At Me I'm SpEsHuL IdEnTiTy.

[–][deleted] 9 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 5 fun -  (3 children)

Liking stuff and things, but make it woke.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

it's like reducing people to a sound bite. You're not a person anymore you're a flag and a symbol.

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That is what bothers me about it the most. It reminds me of "personality fundamentalism", another failed concept IMO (the idea that you are a single "personality type" and cannot change). It's very stereotyped. In this day and age, gender is basically a proxy for personality.. which is ridiculous in and of itself, but it's pressuring people to put themselves in boxes. (Not to mention the suffocating ideology.)

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's supposed to be woke and liberating and valid... but you're just building higher sides onto the box you're shoved in.

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

It sounds like these terms ought to stick with asexuals, then. For asexuals, "romantic partner" really does sound like an intense platonic, emotionally intimate relationship. Ironically maybe, the term "queer platonic relationship" is understandable (apart from the vague catch-all "queer") because it acknowledges that it's platonic at least.

edit: I agree with you about "sensual attraction" (lol) and aesthetic attraction. Colloquially, people just say "a platonic relationship" in a variety of contexts to mean someone with whom you have no sexual component to your relationship.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Yeah, there's no reason to announce to anyone other than another asexual that you're aromatic or romantic. That's just weird and should be just to let other asexual people that you're open to an emotional relationship.

The only time I really let people know IRL is usually when a male friend tests the water. It ends that conversation really fast.

The rest of the words are just tumblr mouth diarrhea. Everyone gets a symbol, a flag, a trophy to declare how different they are....

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

Isn't aromantic asexual relationship...is just friendship?

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

No, aromantic means you don't want a close relationship. Asexuals that pair off are called romantic asexuals. :)

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Friendship is close but not romantic relationship.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't get what you're asking or not understanding.

Paired off asexuals are called romantic asexuals. It insinuates a close emotional bond deeper than a friendship but not sexual.

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I called aromantic asexuals, not romantic ones, thought.