BisexualOpinions on hetero/homoflexibility

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[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 14 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 3 fun -  (5 children)

You know what? This is a great point. If people are Kinsey1/Kinsey5 and rarely think about and never plan on doing anything with same/opposite sex, why force them to call themselves bisexual? It's like calling someone who ate a cupcake one time (or someone who looked at a picture of a cupcake one time and though "hmm... I might like to eat that...") a "cupcake enthusiast." Maybe just let the actual cupcake enthusiasts have that label, and let the cupcake-adjacent individuals call themselves cupcake-flexible, right?

It can be like Bisexual is the umbrella term, and hetero/homoflexible fits underneath it.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think that's exactly how the terms are used. They are just understood as the fringes of bisexuality.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I admit this has been less than a handful of times (can't be more than 3 or 4) and all in the past (the most recent probably 3-4 years ago) where I've seen people go "I'm heteroflexibe hurr hurr" in a jokey-way because they just DO NOT want to call themselves "Bisexual" because to them bisexual has too much baggage (and also I feel like they just didn't feel bisexual enough to fully commit to the "bisexual" label) back then there was a whole thing about celebrities like Raven Symone calling themselves Queer/Pansexual/"I don't want to label myself" basically ANYTHING BUT "bisexual" despite fitting that definition, and it really started making bisexual people feel insulted. But you say hetero/homoflexible people see themselves as under the bi-umbrella nowadays, that makes me happy. For such a long time these types of people made the rest of us feel like they think "bisexual" is a dirty word, they're actively trying to distance themselves from it.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Gay fringe and straight fringe mark very different social boundaries tho and are very significant to homos.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Random heterosexuals who slept with same sex didn’t used to call themselves anything because it wasn’t significant to them since they never intended to date same sex.

When it comes to homosexuals this behaviour is a lot more significant and threatening to other homosexuals because our pool is so tiny, and full of tourists, and we have a lot of fear around the issue. I think it is much more important to be true to your attractions within the community, or at least tell your partner you’re bisexual but same sex preferring. “Homoflexible” sounds like a bisexual person being biphobic from my homosexual perspective. I really want more bisexual women to stick around with us, and I feel like all this granular label stuff creates even more distrust from lesbians. Lol. I rolled my eyes when I saw the words because the only place I have ever seen them was in fetish-related communities.

[–]BiHorror[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lol, I loved that cupcake example of yours. But yeah, I get it. I was thinking more on it before I commented back to responds and I can see that.