I dOnt SeE gEnDeR is a conversation for you and people you are attracted to, not everyone under the sun we do NOT gaf.

The first time someone told me they were pan, it was to “one-up” me as I had just shared I was bi, and they were a morbidly obese, chain smoking man I met in college who also lectured me on how his grandpa smoked til age 90 so he could too without health risks, and also lectured me on how as a woman I am automatically a feminist. Shitty guy.

Needy, unhealthy, insecure...that’s what I read when someone tells me they’re one of the many wonderkin gender identities. You aren’t more enlightened because you think you are attracted to people before knowing or seeing their genitalia-that’s fucking everyone. I cannot stress enough how dumb it is when people think they're in a tiny minority of humans who are attracted to intellect and personality before sexual characteristics.

People are, and sexuality is complex ; that doesn't mean your sexuality is a personality trait. You are 99.9% like every other meatbag on this planet.

when they think their gender identity defines them it shows to me they don't know their true selves, or have any essence outside their physical presentation. Like teenagers trying to look cool and discover who they really are (which is a trial because it's all ego and your true self is NOT your ego)

-but its a bunch of failed-to-launch millennials along with the zoomers now