CompHet is a trans-identified male wanting to suck a biological woman's "dick" and feeling guilty about being attracted to biological women. So queer. So lesbian.

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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries"[S] 17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Ah yes. That jumped out at me the most when I first saved this post. Each time I re-read it, it was like a treasure trove of tropes. This guy is like every trans trope bottled in one and even thinks he's "Not like other trans." Women and even other men are just props to him for validation including the lesbians whose space he self-admittedly "invaded."

We need autogynephilia to be part of the public discourse. Stat. It is so crazy how textbook this behavior is and how they are all part of these communities where everyone is experiencing these exact same things, but no one's allowed to analyze it or ask if it's healthy. If they do, that's how they get banned and how they go through their own peaking.

Also, I love how the post starts out with him saying that he relates to women because his life experiences have so much in common with lesbians but then everything he says could not be further from lesbian life experiences and thought processes. And of course it's r/LBL, so no one's going to call him out on it and everyone's going to validate him. So gross and depressing.

[–]SeasideLimbs 13 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

This guy is like every trans trope bottled in one and even thinks he's "Not like other trans."

Right?? I had to keep myself from commenting on every little aspect of the guy's post cause it would have been a wall of text. There are so many things to pick apart. I feel like with all the headway trans-identified people have made, they have really let their guard down and more often let it all hang out now.

Women and even other men are just props to him for validation including the lesbians whose space he self-admittedly "invaded." We need autogynephilia to be part of the public discourse. Stat.

100% agreed. It's easy to make fun of people like this, but at the same time, he said he "completely broke down mentally" and has "pain and anguish" other people supposedly can't comprehend. It's also pretty clear that the relationship with his wife is incredibly troubled, given how he spends time cultivating crushes on other women on Twitter despite being married to a woman and having a child with her and how feels a strong need to somehow make his relationship with her something "special" by describing it as queer as if he didn't consider it exciting enough if it was a normal straight relationship.

Also, anybody else reminded of CWC when reading this?

I find men repulsive, particularly in their being in the world, every day men. I suffered too much at their hands, and I had to be in spaces, as rarely as possible, where they opened their vile mouths freely. Sometimes I wonder if the number of trans lesbians is not bolstered by the trauma of being sort of secretly embedded with men/boys in early childhood. My partner and I have talked a lot about what toxic male culture feels like on both sides of patriarchal enforcement on the playground. Young men learning to be young men made my life a living hell on the daily. I understand Valetie Solanas, and Janice Raymond almost, just in the intense distrust.

This guy truly is, like, the perfect trans person. He is all the things. You have the fetishization of lesbians, the hatred of one's own sex, the pseudobisexuality, the humiliation fetishism (his statements about how he wants to suck women's dicks and loves "strong women,") the creepiness he shows toward younger women, the intense desire to be ~special~...

What also strikes me about this post, perhaps even more so than just how many boxes he checks, is how interesting the entire post is in how it tries to cram all the things mentioned above into a narrative of a person finding themselves, questioning their feelings, being honest, being true, being thoughtful, being empathic and sincere. Somehow, who knows how, we're at a point where people have been given a language (so to speak, in terms of terms and vague concepts) that allows them to paint fetishism, mental illness, sexual frustration and sexism as something "beautiful, enlightening, intensely interesting, warm and funny," as the top reply claimed.

It's really, really sick. People are gonna look back on this time and think about people like him (and the person who responded to him) the way we nowadays think about human sacrifices in maya culture or men in ancient greece castrating themselves to become members of a religious cult.

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I wonder if they know how much pain and anguish they cause LGBs

[–]SeasideLimbs 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Not only that, but the premise itself is silly. He is insinuating that somebody couldn't go this far for a fetish. Which is doubtlessly untrue, given that there are people who have amputated body parts themselves for a fetish, or killed others for sexual reasons. Men who are sexual and mentally ill enough will go quite far for a fetish at times. Funny enough, those types share tons of traits with the likes of him - the emotional detachment, mental breakdowns, strange sexual perversions, narcissism, etc.

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Paraphilias are like weird sex ocd, people’s whole lives can be controlled by them, and they are incredibly distressing. I believe these people are suffering but also enjoy it on some level. I worked with a trans who was non-stop having breakdowns and sharing really really inappropriate information about their life and sex life etc and it is pretty clear that many of these people are quite insane. It was one of the things that started peaking me because I could not believe any doctor could spend 5 minutes with a person like that and think hormones were a good idea.