LesbianWho are these “cis lesbians” in relationships with transbians, you ask? Befuddled straight women who have been indoctrinated into believing they’re overcoming CompHet.

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[–]a_blue_bird 22 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 2 fun -  (10 children)

I read her other threads and feel quite sorry for her. She's absolutely miserable. Women like her are (part of) the reason why lesbians are constantly harassed by MTFs, to a greater extent than gay men. They're bending backwards to please men and TRAs, regardless the cost to themselves. In another thread she wrote about not being attracted to his genitals, but

I just can't really imagine a world where I'm as turned on by her P as I am by a V. It's just that I find it really tricky to differentiate this idea of a penis I've had all my life, and my fear of them, and then the ultimate discovery that I'm a lesbian and am with a transfem partner, and needing to like literally adjust my entire world view of what a woman's body can look like AND feel equal attraction to her. My mind is pretty there but it's like my body can't catch up. I sometimes accidentally fantasise about her having a V in sexy time and then I feel like shit and then I start thinking about transphobia (and transbianphobia) and it ruins any sexy mood I was in. I'm a fierce advocate for 'there is no one way a woman's body looks, anybody who feels they are a woman is a woman and so lesbians can love woman regardless of their parts' but like what about the socialisation part? How can I train myself to find her as sexy as I would a cis woman and not wish she had different parts? I realise this is horrible to say and that it shouldn't matter. It's like I hate this transphobic world and all of the conditioning I have which is causing this problem. How can I change it?

A woman who - as she herself wrote - was so susceptible to social pressures that only dated men despite being gay (and I'm sure she's not even from a very homophobic place), is now once again suppressing her own identity to live according to another ideology. Why are women like that? I don't get it. Why can't she have at least a bit of respect for what she feels and herself as a person? What matters to her now is adapting some ''lesbian fashion'' and ''looking like a lesbian couple''. She doesn't live in the real word, does she? She even wrote that her bf ''ponders'' that he ''might'' be trans, and doesn't even id as a woman himself. It's all in her head, she's all about creating some image of herself for the society to look at, regardless how much of her actual feelings she has to deny to create this image that in [insert current year] she has found to be ''the most desirable'' to have.

[–]Astrid2448 18 insightful - 6 fun18 insightful - 5 fun19 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

Lol she was fine with his penis up until he said he was trans and she “became a lesbian”. She’s just trying to act gay by emulating what the lesbians say lol

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s the fucking funniest part, and calling him a fake lesbian when she’s a fake lesbian and neither of them know any real lesbians, hahahahaha.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries"[S] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

This is textbook codependency issues and exactly the kind of person I would imagine would end up in a relationship with a MTF, being rah rah about it, while internally miserable.

[–]hellonumpty 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

100%. Typically codependents are narcs primary target tbh and we all see how many trans people, especially "transbians" display signs of narcissistic personality disorder or a lot of narc traits at least.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Borderlines are narcs primary target, even more than codependent

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries"[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That sounds like a recipe for absolutely disastrous drama. As the child of a narc mom and codependent dad, that shit was enough for me. And trust me, no one is more surprised than I am that I’m a productive member of society. And don’t worry everyone, I have no desire to perpetuate this esteemed genetic line. I was the normal one in my family until I went and gayed.

Also, once upon a time I had a borderline roommate who would do fun things like sleep in my bed in my room when I wasn’t around until one time I came home early without warning and was like wtf girl. I never got an explanation although it explained why she would constantly ask when I’d be home. She also airbnbed her room without notice more than once so I’d come home to strange men and couples being in my apartment.

Personality disorders man: not even once.

[–]reluctant_commenter 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Why are women like that? I don't get it. Why can't she have at least a bit of respect for what she feels and herself as a person?

Probably had her boundaries overridden by people her whole life. This is the part that makes the most sense to me. I have no idea what her actual feelings and interests are, though-- and I kind of doubt she does, either.

Either that, or as you described, she is more of the hop-on-the-hype-train variety and is trying to be cool. Considering she was talking about a "lesbian lifestyle", that might be more likely.

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

This is a straight woman though, she’s not a lesbian. I don’t think she’s ever been with a woman. She’s suddenly started watching lots of lesbian porn to convert herself for her transbian partner and now she’s got pussy ocd, lol.

[–]spicyramen 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

typical pick-me shit

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Jeeeeeez. That's really sad. How can women be this blind?