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[–]CJLez 41 insightful - 5 fun41 insightful - 4 fun42 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

I feel like part of being a lesbian isn't literally just finding a woman attractive, but somewhat being involved in the culture, the media, a certain humour, the fashion etc.

No, literally just finding (only) women sexually attractive is what being a lesbian is. You can stay in the closet until you are 98 years old and never tell a single person and you're still a lesbian, whether you act on your feelings or not.

It's exhausting having to show it all to her and teach everything (on top of helping her so much with her gender gender presentation, and teaching her about clothes and makeup). It's like, part of what I find sexy about women is knowing that stuff. My gf was raised her whole life not knowing these things, not knowing 'how to girl'.

Some nice casual anti-butch statements there - only being attracted to femmes is obviously fine, people are into who they're into, but the insinuation that women who don't enjoy make-up and girly clothes aren't women is not a great look.

I can't help but have this shitty gatekeeping feeling of like: Will you ever be a real lesbian?

Honey. Neither of you will ever be a lesbian.

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Yeah, being exclusively attracted to other women is the ONLY thing that is truly lesbian. All the other bits are how our lives are shaped by that one essential part. If you are not exclusively attracted to women then you’re not a lesbian. It’s VERY VERY SIMPLE.

Makeup is literally paste or powder you smear on yourself with greater or lesser precision. It’s not woman, man, boy, girl, anything. It’s stuff. People do it or don’t. It’s not lesbian. It’s not woman. Lol

We don’t need a gate we need a bunker, at this point