ColonizationStraight girl needs help overcoming her compulsory heterosexuality in order to make her heterosexual sex with a trans-identified male "queer."

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[–]writerlylesbian 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah, the list was so long, but the one thing that should have been on there, being a female who is exclusively sexually attracted to other females, was not only omitted but explicitly called out as being unnecessary.

They should have gone into the many ways a young lesbian can feel wrong about womanhood, like a pervert, like a fraud, like she’s nuts, shouldn’t be a woman, hates her own body

Yes, the absence of having the understanding of how it feels to start experiencing sexual attraction to women whilst also being a woman is quite telling, isn't it?

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah, it basically left out all of the lesbian awkwardness and clearly not having exclusive attraction to women is the most important of all. I figured maybe they just left it out because the women reading don’t understand what attraction means or are confused but it’s not that complicated. Your body does things for women. Everything else is the complication. But the body generally knows and we don’t listen to it. (This is barring trauma and stuff that can cause a persons signals to get mixed up, or turned right off)

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries"[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's because it was written by someone who believes that being a woman is a feeling completely de-coupled from the female sex/female bodies.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think this is one of the consequences of women not being seen as sexual beings with sexual agency. I think these women are not expecting sex to be a big deal as a lesbian because they don’t think we fuck. Lesbians have way higher expectations than some dude and we are a lot harder to please in bed. I can’t imagine how any woman would believe she could be a lesbian without being attracted to the female body. Lesbians literally report the highest level of sexual satisfaction in terms of orgasms, of ALL women. not only do you need to be attracted to women, you have to be GOOD, and you have to know your own body.