Do you think that "genderfluid" is real? Is there any biological evidence to it?

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[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 21 insightful - 5 fun21 insightful - 4 fun22 insightful - 5 fun -  (3 children)

What exactly do "genderfluid" people want from us?

Okay, one of them walks up to you. "Hello anon, I'm a genderfluid."

Okay. Now what?? What am I supposed to do with this information? What do you want? Am I supposed to treat you differently based on how you feel? How do I even know what you feel like at any given moment? Do you carry name tags around that say things like "I am feeling female/male/nonbinary/multigender right now?" and you swap them out whenever you get the change? Do you carry a pink bow with you and place it atop your head whenever you start feeling femme-ish? If you were feeling dudely two minutes ago and you suddenly go through your transformation and I call you a "he" but you are now a "she" how big of a scene are you going to cause?

Genderfluid is a special kind of mindfuck and I can relate it to a very specific behavior in parents that causes children to develop borderline personality disorder or CPTSD or other mental issues. The parent acts in such an inconsistent way that the child never knows what reaction the parent will have at any given moment. One day you come home two minutes late and your parent beats the shit out of you and punishes you. Another day you come in five minutes late, and your parent doesn't seem to care at all. Your entire life revolves around trying to predict your parents moods so that you can avoid getting punished and abused. Your parents moods and emotions become your responsibility. If your parent is upset, it is your fault.

SO now we are being put in a position where we have to guess someone's gender at any given moment and behave the correct way, or else we will be punished. We are told this person is very fragile, and that we are responsible for this person's moods and feelings. This is abusive and fucked up. No one should have this much power over anyone else.

[–]adultxhumanxfemaledie mad about it 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Okay. Now what?? What am I supposed to do with this information?

At the risk of sounding glib, I personally appreciate those who readily identify themselves as having this mental affliction. It instantly lets me know that they are a person to be avoided at all costs lest you become mired in their inevitable array of drama and victimhood from every perceived slight against their "validity".

Most of us grow out of that weird and awkward adolescent stage of figuring out where we belong in this world and just get on with it. These neo pronouners are stuck in this developmental stage and expect everyone else to acquiesce. It's honestly pathetic when we are speaking of adults behaving this way.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Haha I say the same thing! I like when they out themselves as attention-seeking Tumblr users right away. It prevents me from wasting any time with them. Thank goodness I'm not living/working in America right now. If I had an office-mate who had special pronouns, I know I would just completely avoid them and avoid speaking about them (and I know that's mean, but that's just my internal defense mechanism against shit like this. I am compelled to remove myself as far away from the 'dangerous/distressing situation' as possible, and a person who's entire emotional wellbeing depends on me using or not using a word, this causes me stress and social anxiety. I cannot be given this kind of responsibility. I am not paid enough!) And of course this avoidant behavior would be 'problematic' so I'd have to sacrifice my own emotional wellbeing to coddle a confused attentionwhore.

[–]adultxhumanxfemaledie mad about it 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's not mean at all it's just self-preservation and completely understandable. Functioning adults don't have time for the ridiculousness.