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[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

In the way they try describe demisexuality if you think hard enough it is somehow distinct from just waiting for the right moment to bang someone. They say normal people feel sexual attraction from the beginning even if they don't act on it first, while demi people don't... Technically it sounds distinct but do self-described demi people actually feel this way? Don't they mistake this special description with what normal people actually experience? I'm asexual aromantic and I'm baffled what drives demis to form relationships like that in the first place? There must be attraction from the very beginning... but I'm sure they'd call it "romantic" attraction driving them so their label stays somehow consistent. Truly I always disliked the idea of making asexuality a spectrum. Anything what's not asexuality is just being a normal sexual person.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm baffled what drives demis to form relationships like that in the first place? There must be attraction from the very beginning.

THIS. There has to be sexual attraction of some kind to kindle a relationship that will become sexual eventually.