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[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's fine to post this here, your just asking for opinions like anyone else. There's some good relies already, so I'll just state that if he is pressuring you to be attracted to him as a women, he's clearly showing he won't respect boundaries. Someone else's gender identity should dictate your sexual identity. If you want to stay with him you need to figure out what is causing these feelings, is it just cross dressing or is it really trans? Once he starts hanging out with the egg crowd he will start moving in that direction. I saw this awhile ago about a former autogynephilic guy... I thought maybe you could get something out of it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHLPk1JrPzQ&t=267s

[–]buhnahnuhbr3ad[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I really really think it's a self esteem issue and perhaps a bit of a kink. I ran the autogynephilic thing by him and he reacted neutral to it. I'm not sure if it offended him or he was actually considering it. As for the egg crowd, I do hope he hasn't been lurking around them, especially online. Not that I don't want him to be trans and that I hate them, I just think it isn't the solution to something deeper within him. But I suppose our friends and his time in San Francisco during college aren't opposing his gender either. Which speaking of, does make me nervous and trapped with all this because of our friends and how their views on T are, plus I'm certain a few of em could be under TRA by definition and how they act about pronouns and JK Rowling. I'll give the video a look, so thank you for the link.