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[–]buhnahnuhbr3ad[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh we definitely ran that scenario by when we were talking about me not being attracted to him as a woman and he rightfully understands. It's that weird childish mentality of "I want my cake and eat it too" vs the adult "you can't have everything" thinking that's at odds with him (and me too). I truly don't (and hope) think he wants to transition. He's told me multiple times that he enjoys being "my man" and wants to be that for me; I'm the only one who makes him feel masculine for once and I find that very telling that he needs therapy. I truly love him, he's amazing and smart and kind and everything I could've wanted in a guy. Yes, the 7 years makes this relationship feel permanent and intimidating to just leave it all behind. I get nervous and guilty for bringing his gender identity up again because it always ends with him being upset and I get it. He's trying to find himself and it's hard. But I think I need to have a talk with him again sometime and discuss our future with this. Thanks for replying.