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    [–]buhnahnuhbr3ad[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

    That's the thing. I'm fairly certain it is a fetish of some sort. But I also think it's a self esteem issue. We've talked about this before and I would ask why he felt the way he did and it usually goes to "I like getting attention as a girl. No one gives me compliments or notices me as a guy and it makes me feel undesirable". I'm not really offended by his conclusions about not getting attention as a man; I love him to bits and show it to him every time I see him. It may be foolish, but I don't want to give up on him or I feel like there's no option for that. I want him to be happy and I want him to be happy with himself.

    [–]notdelusionalbased faggot 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    Transgenderism is fundamentally a matter of low self-esteem, but it's really hard to help people gain true and lasting self-esteem.

    [–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Especially when they're looking for it through other people instead of inside themselves.

    [–]anarchy753 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    There are some interesting stories on the detrans sub about situations like this. Guys who like the attention of being female, but aren't trans. I was reading about a guy who felt completely misled by psychologists who instantly told them they were trans and pushed for transition for occsionally dressing up, when it really turned out to be more of a kink. Sounds pretty similar to your situation.

    Found it: https://www.removeddit.com/r/detrans/comments/hkolgy/how_i_nearly_cut_off_my_dick_over_a_kink_my_peak/

    [–]buhnahnuhbr3ad[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    This is...eerily similar. Almost on the nose in the first half. I do fear that if he were to get therapy, it would only be a therapist who would try to push the gender dysphoria in him ( not that I want them to lie to him that he doesn't have it if he does). I want it to be genuine, not feeding him what could be lies or misdiagnosing him which would lead him to a path where it'd be scary difficult to come back from.

    [–]anarchy753 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I've been listening to some of Abigail Shrier's book about the transexual craze at the moment, and in her research it sounds like A LOT of therapists are very scared to lose their license because of stupid requirements for dealing with gender matters. It's not that they'll lie and tell him he doesn't have it, it's that they'll amlost certainly call any sort of tendancy towards the other gender 'dyphoria' and be pushing him towards transition.