You are all you’ve got.

submitted by No1stupid from self.Incels

Fellowcels, I have realized something today. It is one of the most brutal blackpills I have had to swallow recently, and I can’t lie and say that I’ve taken it well. It’s the kind of blackpill that will have me waking up screaming in the middle of the night.

My support system is gone. It was slowly disappearing by the time I reached my mid-20’s, but at this point, it is almost truly gone. I know a lot of you have been playing life on impossible difficulty from the start, but I was lucky enough to have a mommy and daddy who loved me (conditionally, but still), and a circle of cousins who could be my friends during childhood when I struggled to make them in school.

My immediate family wants nothing to do with me as I approach my 30’s with no college degree, and no life accomplishments. I am the elephant in the room at family gatherings, who is standing in the corner rubbing his neck nervously while they all glance at me from time to time, and occasionally throw out a generic conversational fishing line like, “So what are you up to these days?” The answer is “Work.”, and that’s the end of that exchange.

But that is not the end of this depressing news. The incel community, despite being a cozy respite from the cruelties of life, does not have my back. In an impersonal way, we can vent to each other about our commonly shared problems, but if one of us were to go bankrupt and end up homeless on the streets, I don’t think many of us would be comfortable enough to pitch in a few dollars to help that person out in a realistic sense.

So here is the atomic blackpill: You really only have yourself. You are the only person who can save you if things go to shit. And I’m not saying that to be mean, I am just acknowledging that the likelihood of being helped through a legitimate crisis by the users here is low.

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[–]hyassin27 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

This is true, add in the fact many incels can't take care of themselves which means even if they wanted to help they would just make things worse

[–]No1stupid[S] 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Our emotional intelligence is low due to a lack of friendships and pair bonding. If we tried to help each other or provide comfort, we would inevitably do it the wrong way and make the other person want to commit suicide.

I have tried to “be there” for certain people, but my blunt and terse responses leave them feeling empty inside.

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Based

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

You are not entitled to help, sweaty.

[–]automoderator[M] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

'Entitled' is a fairly meaningless term that does not accurately describe most of the incels on this sub or elsewhere on the Internet. On one extreme, the word 'entitled' is used to describe men who literally believe that they should be able to force women to date them. On the other extreme, the word 'entitled' is used to describe men who are merely frustrated or sad that they can't find anyone at all to date them. This type of frustration is reasonable, since sex and romantic relationships are regarded by many as one of the most fulfilling things in life. The problem with using the word 'entitled' for both categories of men is that it lumps them together, demonizing men in the latter category by companing them to men in the former category. If you wish to criticize our views, please be more specific than merely calling us 'entitled'.

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[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

shut up, bitch

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

is this st pepe talking, the words look green

[–]hybristophilia 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sorry to hear man. My family has helped me at times, especially when l was younger. I mean my aunts, grandparents etc. My parents are beyond stupid and actually made me small, weak, put superstitions in my head, made me speak funny on purpose.

If l hadn't had other classmates' parents to help me, l would have been dead on the streets.

If you run out of immediate family help, look for church help. Any church. I used to give food to homeless, invite poorer people to be warm there, volunteered my time.

I made some good friends back then. Just be honest and tell them if you're hungry, looking for jobs etc. Some churches are better than others, it really depends on where you live

[–]Administrative_worth 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

AS you age you find that people only respect vanity and power. Wealth accumulated, position, status, and the ability to get what you want. Looks are still king, but looks do fade. People age and often become bitter, and jaded. Everyone wants to be mega successful and lead a fantastic life. Most don't. ANd as they age they turn into cruel bitter-hardened individuals looking to take whatever they can.

That's why they respect and admire wealth and power. They toady up to it. It's why that rich relative always gets attention and respect. Not because of his personality, but because they want what he has.

Most people don't respect personality. The only personality that gets deep respect is benevolent chad. It's the highest form of chad. It just adds to him. Benevolent when he doesn't have to be. Vs nice normie or incel who has to be nice to get by in life.

At the same time though, you have to sit back and laugh. The game is so shitty for most. So many people aren't fulfilled in life. They wage, go home, repeat. If you're not "successful" don't feel bad. You didn't fuck up.

It's like people who talk about some "incel" feeling entitled like the world owes him. That's wrong. My own family used to say that about me. I never felt like the world owed me. I came from a very abusive family. I felt more or less like that there are no rules. If you can get away with beign violent to your family so long as you suppress them from speaking out, you win. If oyu can emotionally abuse them and manipulate them into such a Plato's cave they become trapped, you won. They lost. Most people who are desibed as "entitled" are individuals of low status treated as low status their whole lives, angry and striving for more. Don't let them make you feel shitty. Don't let them drive you back into a hole. Carve out something for yourself.

[–]automoderator[M] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Personality isn't that important to most women. They often emphemize personality for good physical looks and social status. When gangbanger Jeremy Meeks was released from prison for robbing and beating another boy close to death, his girlfriend married and had children with him. Meeks improved his personality so much that he later cheated on his wife with a rich bimbo and didn't even feel bad about it.

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[–]automoderator[M] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

'Entitled' is a fairly meaningless term that does not accurately describe most of the incels on this sub or elsewhere on the Internet. On one extreme, the word 'entitled' is used to describe men who literally believe that they should be able to force women to date them. On the other extreme, the word 'entitled' is used to describe men who are merely frustrated or sad that they can't find anyone at all to date them. This type of frustration is reasonable, since sex and romantic relationships are regarded by many as one of the most fulfilling things in life. The problem with using the word 'entitled' for both categories of men is that it lumps them together, demonizing men in the latter category by companing them to men in the former category. If you wish to criticize our views, please be more specific than merely calling us 'entitled'.

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[–]LonelyHermit 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Get rid of the fucking auto mod!

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keep this based mod!

[–]Legendarywristcel 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Brutal lonelinesspill. I feel the same way as you OP. 32 and KHHV here. We can vent all we want, but in reality theres no one to help any of us. I have no support system.

[–]cacodemon 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The best thing you can do is realize this honestly. Once you do you can start growing a spine and deal with life better. This kind of blackpill has to be taken in a constructive manner however, to be seen in a positive light or else it may be too much.

Normies are aware of it and will tell you the "you're loser and you'll die alone" npc response when they want to hurt you. Although the same basic truth applies to them as well.

[–]KekliumMaximum 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

its pretty obvious that the only person who can realistically save yourself is you in a crisis. Obviously in life tho, its just the vicious cycle of society that craps on the unfavorable... Also most Incels are usually poor due to their own depression

[–]hahayesfunnyyes 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Incel communities are nothing but places to vent. i dont think we are a community in the way most people think. i think if one of us got the chance to leave this hole they would instantly do it and forget (almost) everything they learned about the blackpill