What are your thoughts about gender, and what are the main things needed right now to help the prosperity of women in your communities?

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I'm hoping this can be a thread to just share differing perspectives. We come from different places and we've sometimes been discouraged from talking with each other.

So rather than an opportunity to "debate" or "disagree," I'd like to invite women to share their current perspectives and thoughts on gender and women's prosperity, each from their own perspective as applies to their own communities.

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[–]Yayme 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I wish there were more incentives in place to encourage big businesses to use women-owned small businesses.

Right now the wosb certification is just a racket. You have to pay a ton of money to a third party to get certified, and the support they provide is a complete joke. They have mixers you can go to where big companies have their supply chain people there, but no one gets any real business from those events. The big companies only do it to pay lip service to supplier diversity without actually having a diverse supply chain.

I’d like to see actual tax incentives for using all diverse suppliers, not just the tiny segment in place now.

[–]cybitch 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I don't believe this whole "men are the same as women, gender is a social construct" thing actually helps women in the workplace. For one, women are naturally less aggressive than men and the competitive environment is not for most of us. Also, when women try the negotiating tactics that are successful for men, we get a negative reaction as people subconsciously judge someone's behavior differently depending on their gender. Women's threshold for being considered aggressive as opposed to assertive is lower. On the other hand, when women engage in behavior that's more natural to us, we will get overlooked in favor of the men who can speak up without being perceived as an overbearing bitch. Only being attractive can help women get attention, but not all women can have that advantage.

I feel that if people acknowledged that our evolution has led us to have a different temperament, our positive qualities would be acknowledged - being careful, less impulsive, more empathetic and patient, more inclined to compromise instead of trying to dominate a group etc. I remember applying for a job in a medicine plant where the employer told me they only wanted women for that role as men kept injuring themselves with the chemicals and boiling oil. It was a job many would've considered more suitable for a male but in practice it turns out women were more inclined to do it safely and without dangerous mistakes caused by a lack of caution and overestimating one's abilities.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I wish women weren't pressured into working just like men are, when women get pregnant etc they are forced to work on their first weeks which are crucial for the pregnancy, as in the first trimester its where most of miscarrigies take place, specially due to emotional or physical stress.

Women do not have the time to be mothers as they are only given a few months to be away with their child, they can't enjoy their pregnancy as they need to work during it.

We are not the same as men and we should be integrated in the work force differently as such.

Also, its scary to see how women are gradually being more silenced, to casual ways and accepted ways into society such as the popularization of the meme of the "Karen" or due to TRA's.

So yeah, I think we are going through a rocky place right now and all I hope is that ours earned rights remain victorious in protecting us and ensuring our safety

[–]Wrencer 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Am I the only one torn between wanting to abolish gender because it's a social construct, full of harmful stereotypes, and letting ppl express themselves the way they want ?

btw thanks for creating this more open minded place