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[–]Spotted_Lady 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

The issue I see here is appropriation. Do people who change their racial identity seek permission from the community that they move into?

An issue she brings up is that many don't know the difference between gender identity and sex. So if that is true, and it may be distasteful to say, a person could be a male woman or a female man.

[–]SnowAssMan[S] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

that's certainly Butler's conclusion, instead of just accepting Sam Lux for what he is: a feminine homosexual man.

[–]Spotted_Lady 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I used to host/moderate online spaces for the lesser-common transsexuals, and male-born non-op transgender folks would constantly invade, try to promote gay propaganda, etc. I eventually grew tired of that. I tried different schemes such as a layered approach. Have a vetting group and then the real group. Some felt misled/tricked by that. And when I thought I had a good core group, I learned things about them that I didn't like.

One pattern I noticed was that for the fetish crowd I kept trying to keep out, they usually had more than one fetish. So it was no surprise to see transfolk also attempt to transition their race or have apotemnophilia (disability fetish). There are trans folks and trans-ethnic folks who may seem reasonable. That is their identity. But then there are those for whom sex is their identity and these valid communities were there for them to exploit and use as a means to seeking "more and better sex." And that strategy rarely works ("porn creep"), since things must become more and more extreme and old arousal methods stop working. It is like the one "rule" -- "If it exists, there is porn of it."

[–]filbs111 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I lost braincells reading the comments. A luxury the commenters can ill afford.