I think on an individual level the specific act of creating porn controls women, rapes them really. Apologists might try to rationalize it away but what ever they call it, it will be a form of rape. The distribution of porn along with its acceptance also controls women in that it sets a societal expectation on them, which is a lowest common denominator that no individual might hold but ends up dragging us all down to where those who control culture want it to be (the gutter, because they hold the general population in disdain. That's why big record companies only saw Rap as viable when it glorified the worst aspects of the culture Rap came out of. This is true of nearly every cultural thing that becomes commercially viable not because of our demand but because of the demands of those who disseminate it). But women are not in a vacuum. Women are half of society. To say men are not controlled by porn is easily seen as not true. The new levels of sexual violence that has become common in consensual sex are a form of that control of men to expect and want that from women-- to want to degrade women, to break society and our cultures even more than it are.

In the same why that what ever you do for the least of you, you do for me, what ever injustice is done to others is an in justice done to all of us. If we ignore the injustice and suffering of others, we kill off our own empathy and our own connection to the rest of humanity. Men who are OK with what is done to women, because those who force our culture into being a pornographic culture, are just as controlled and manipulated as women. The physical suffering of women via porn, and the false standards of behavior set by it on women, create mental and emotional scars on men who expect what is not real. Men and women suffer together in a porn culture where they could and should be seeking communion and love growth in relationships with each other and in community with each other. Who has it worse keeps it a fight. To solve the problem we must all transcend the problem. Porn creates broken people, both men and women, and a broken society for all of us.