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[–]MarkTwainiac 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

what do you think and how do you feel about fathers of new born babies using the women's room to change their baby's diapers? Only women's rest rooms have diaper changing stations, and areas, but men's rest rooms do not.

This person doesn't know anything about women's restroom facilities, diaper changing stations, or the customs around them.

Fold-down diaper changing stations like the now-commonplace plastic Koala brand only were invented in 1986. In the US and Canada, by the mid-late 90s they had become standard in all-access family restrooms, disabled toilets and men's rooms in the types of establishments frequented by families with young kids, such as supermarkets, popular big box stores, shopping malls, chain fast food restaurants, highway/motorway rest plazas, parks and beaches, libraries, airports, movie theaters, community centers, family-oriented recreational and leisure facilities, and so on. But they're typically not found in places where people don't customarily take little kids such as fancier restaurants with table service and no kids' menus, bars, night clubs and gyms/health clubs catering to adults and which don't provide child care services to allow adults to work out.

This guy's suggestion that only "new born babies" need diapering also shows he know nothing about young children.

FWIW, I know lots of dads who have done their fair share of diapering and childcare, including taking their infants and toddlers out and about on their own, but I've never heard of men going into women's rooms to change their kids' diapers. I've never witnessed this or heard about it ever happening from any women or other moms either. In fact, this thread is the first time I've heard that this might be a thing.

Most parents and carers of either sex carry diaper bags with changing mats in them so we/they can change diapers wherever when the need arises. Most people use whatever surface is at hand - the floor or ground, a bench, a chair - or the child's pram or stroller/push chair. It's not like diaper changing stations are absolutely essential. After all, there were lots of babies and diaper-wearing kids around long before such stations were invented. My hunch is, the majority of kids' diapers changed outside the home are changed in ad hoc circumstances without the luxury of a restroom or changing station.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Right exactly. I've read from some other women that they have seen men changing baby's diapers in women's restrooms but ti's almost entirely rare, especially since it's just like you said, most places that receive lots of business have family restrooms anyway so this dude was just pulling things out of his butt to be honest.

[–]MarkTwainiac 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Also, depending on the child's size, a diaper can be changed by laying a kid in your lap/across your thighs at an angle - and since dads are generally bigger than moms, this is often easier for men to do than for women. Moreover, once children can stand, whether on their own by bracing themselves with their hands on something, diapers can be changed when they're on their feet, so no need to lay them down flat on their backs. Babies stand much earlier than many people unfamiliar with babies realize. https://www.verywellfamily.com/when-should-a-baby-stand-2634693

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Very interesting, thanks for sharing!