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[–]lefterfield 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yep, that was actually true a while ago. You're a bad person if you ask for pronouns, you're a bad person if you don't. You must be a mind reader and anticipate what rule will offend the person you're talking to at every given moment. And I do mean "moment" because the rules change minute by minute for many of them.

[–]IridescentAnaconda 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sounds like just another exhausting narcissist.

[–]Anoki 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What a mind fuck , if you don’t ask you are transphobic, and if you do you are a bad person, well being called by your name and surname is a safe option

[–]Anonimouse 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

  1. The earnestness/entitlement of those who ask, as if it is no big deal and/or a favor to me

Ok, misgendering it is. Also, how entitled to ask people their name when you meet.

  1. The expectation that I answer on demand (to strangers) about something that is personal, complex, and traumatic

Not that fucking personal. What do you want to be called?

And in the replies, when someone points out exactly what OP is on about here: “We” are actually all different. What some trans people find affirming is not what all trans people find affirming. Kind of like any community with infinity diversity. It’s almost like you have to treat all of us as individuals or something. inconvenient, I know.

How the fuck are we supposed to know which "we" you are if we can't ask?