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[–]WrongToy 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Can you imagine some post-menopausal woman saying this? Or an infertile woman?

Reminds me of what happened with SO at his lunch the other day. He goes into this sandwich place, and there's this TIM trying to act like they're 25 with the "hawt" outfit, stretching out, being overly femme in pointing to the sign, "well would you like this one or that one? I recommend this one."

He's just thinking looking at this guy, hey, you're a guy. Quit flirting with me. And the TIM keeps pressing on with the antics, "oh do I pass? Can you say ma'am?"

[–]pacmanla 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

As a male, I've experienced this before as well. A transwoman (male) was trying their best to be overtly "feminine" or at least their definition of the word, & trying to be "girly" around every male in this hotel restaurant/bar area. It was very uncomfortable. Another guy & I glanced at each other with a look like, yeah, this is a male. It was very uncomfortable & the other men there knew, but bit their tongue & just excused themselves.

[–]WrongToy 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

SO was describing the makeup on this person, and he was befuddled, saying, "what IS that?" That plus the obvious flirty behavior.

There have been other times. Like once he went into some sports store (he fishes) and the TIM is running around, atwitter, saying can I help you with this or that, almost like girlcrushing. He was like, what, are they following me around because they think I'll steal shit?

I just told him what was up with that TIM. They were fishing for a "thank you maam" or something like that. Hopefully he didn't call him dude or guy and cause a human rights event.

I call fellow women dudes all the time based on context. It matters, less so to the trans.