I was pro-gender for so long, looking back at it, being this way only a mere few months ago, I feel so strange being in this habitat. But, I registered this account because I knew I had to speak out against the abuses women face, and the abuses I've faced when I was mistaken for a woman. Kai Decadence (you probably know him) was a big influence on my development. Reading his experience of being a gay, gender non-conforming Goth guy realising that gender ideology is, and always has been, the polar opposite of liberation really opened my eyes.
Lately, my mind has been more and more focused on gender politics, abnormally so. I've been interested in so many topics - from anarcho-communism to fascism, to ethno-nationalism, to transhumanism and primitivism - but, somehow, gender has occupied my mind far more than any former political phase. I had messed up in the past so many times, but never as hard as when I fell into the trap that was gender politics. I've been on Reddit, and I've gotten into heated conversations with TRAs, over and over again. But, an interesting observation to this, aside from their complete absence of arguments, is the fact that they always assume I'm a woman. They never assume I'm a man. I never tell them my sex (they don't even care about sex, anyway).
Recently, someone said that they hoped I was raped, and I later found out they were assuming I was a woman. This was after they failed to justify trans-identified men raping women (spoiler alert: rape can never be justified). I was originally feeling bad about it, but knowing they thought I was a woman, just because I expressed anti-gender beliefs, really struck a nail. This is truly how much women are hated, that other women, with internalised misogyny, are hoping rape occurs to them. It turns out, a lot of the people, whose comment history I've checked, were mouthing off to other TRAs about their conversations with me, in which they referred to me with 'she/her' sex pronouns.
See, I already knew this to some degree, but it's helped me confirm my suspicious. Firstly, to be a woman in any civil society (not referring to 'civilised societies,' but societies with a state) is to be hated, to be a property for despicable acts and language to be committed against, because a woman daring not to conform to what society sees as just, it means she's an 'ugly, man-hating lesbian.' Someone doesn't even have to be a woman, but are merely assumed to be female, and therefore are a target of harassment. I've noticed that every LGBT+ sub never advocates for the abolition of political heterosexuality, but instead focuses all its energy on to hating gender critical women.
Secondly, and even more importantly, to be a woman means to possess something (social), while to be a man means to not possess something (social), for there, in the case of men, to be an absence of something. For instance, there is no male equivalent of 'femininity.' 'Masculinity' is not a real thing. To be a man is to exist in a social, cultural condition where no one questions their 'maleness,' whether on its own, isolated, or in relation to any activity, behaviour and expression. No one will question why a man behaves as he does, behaving naturally, will not, at any point, tie his maleness to his lifestyle. But, to be a woman, it is a different story. To be a woman, in a gendered world, is to be castrated, for civil society to judge you for behaving and expressing yourself however you please. She is confined to a certain lifestyle, a certain way of thinking, a certain selection of careers. She is bound to a man, financially, socially, maternally, and is said not to exist for her own sake. To be a man, as in myself, criticising gender and sexual liberalism (what's referred to as 'liberal feminism,' but I refuse to refer to it as such, since it's a form of anti-feminism), it is to be free of gender. While being a woman and doing the same, it is to be burdened by gender, since trans-identification politics must, for TRAs, relate to one's womanhood, understanding of their own femininity.
Honestly, it'd be better if I were to, upfront, state I'm a man before conversing with TRAs. But, regardless, I don't really feel like arguing with them anymore. They're repetitive, boring, misogynistic. The sheer amount of anti-female things one sees in TRA subs, which don't even directly relate to trans-identification, is revolting. Even in non-gendered contexts, TRAs and trans-identified men and trans-identified women just find whatever excuse they can to be grossly insensitive to women's tragic experiences.