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[–]usehername 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And even if these young people did or do have some same-sex sexual experience already, it doesn't mean they are necessarily "LGBTQ." It's always been quite common for kids, adolescents and college/uni students and young adults to have same-sex sexual experiences in the process of growing up.

Uh, no. Normal heterosexual people don't just have same-sex experiences without feeling revolted and raped after. If they enjoyed it, they are bi, no matter how far they lean towards the opposite sex. However, you are correct when you include:

people who suffered CSA, ASA & EASA

Sexual trauma can mess with a person's understanding of their sexuality, especially if they end up developing fetishes, which can override one's sexual orientation.

because they were sexually abused by someone of one sex as children/adolescents/young adults, it means they are naturally oriented towards that sex

It is possible that an abused person who is abused by a person of the same sex can develop a fetish for abuse from said sex, but the fetish would have to be really extreme for a heterosexual to seek out abusive sexual relationships with members of the same sex without having ANY genuine attraction to them. Now, I'm not saying this never happens, but it's very uncommon. This scenario is much more common: I know a bi man (who calls himself gay) who is exactly like this. He has admitted that he rarely (when drunk) engages in opposite-sex-oriented sexual behavior, however, in relationships, he seeks out abusive gay men and does feel genuine attraction to them. These behaviors can happen as you described, except the ones who engage in it are, in general, genuinely bi, however far they may lean in one direction.

The way people live their adult lives past age 25 into middle-age and the senior years is much more indicative of their actual sexual orientation than the exploring and experimenting they did in their formative years.

Disagree. Sounds like you're saying that bi people with a preference for one sex aren't really bi.

The upshot is that especially when it comes to people under age 25, what they tell pollsters, report in anonymous online surveys and say on social media has to be taken with a grain of salt. Or a whole shaker.

Very much agree.

People lie to themselves and others all the time about all sorts of stuff.

Agree.